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family and friends
I am 15 and live with my dad and have 9 sisters who live with my mom i did have a lot of friends at one time but all of them seem to not want to know me and At the moment i feel like i have no friends or family and and they don't want to know me everytime i get my hopes up they just let me down and when i make plans they make excuses am i a bad person ? Or is it just my concious
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There's a lot I do not know of your family set up, and history. I find it odd that there were 10 kids in a family to begin with and now parents are split up, one has 9 and the other has 1 kid. Sounds like a heavy load for mom.
I do not know if there is anything the family or friends are doing to cause you to feel this way. Maybe there is...but that 9 sisters(you're not pulling my leg on this???) a mom and dad, thats two more for a total of eleven and friends, (hmmm I was shy in High school and still I had 5 good friends) so that puts my guess at 16 people. Do you really think that 16 people are all choosing to ignore you and find ways to not be in your life? I can believe 2 people doing that but 16 or so? So what does that leave us with? Only two realities. Have you guessed yet what they might be?
One is that it is all in your head and has no base in reality. What could cause that? Maybe due to negative thinking which can bring on cognitive behavioral problems in which you try to fulfill your negative beliefs by what you do...subconsciously to make them happen in real life so you can validate your feelings that they were right.
Two being it was something Physically you were born with or predisposed to have appear at some point in your life.
So it could be an undiagnosed mental illness causing you to feel this way. Or it could be that you have chronic depression that needs treatment. Who likes hanging around a depressing person. No one does. Human nature makes us seek out those who are upbeat and happy and funny. You may have been born having a social disorder like Aspergers, a condition which is low on the spectrum of Autistic disorders. Even a person with slight autism will come across as different. My husband has that and has learned how to overcome the parts that hold him back and deal with the things he has no power to change. He appears normal to the general public but to really close friends and family, we are the only ones able to notice the tiny little things that are different.
I don't know you nor the friends or family to know whats going on. I do know that typically lots of teens have issues and concerns about being liked and accepted. The only other thing I can think of that makes teen boys or girls start to feel differently and act differently concerning their emotions is when their hormonal balance is off, either too high or too low. This starts around puberty.
If I were If you, I'd have a heart to heart talk with each parent, hopefully they can agree to meet you at the same time and let them know how you are feeling and make clear that you are not blaming them but you want to discover what is going on, if something is a problem on your side that needs medical intervention, or mental health intervention, and you might give them the list of things I mentioned not knowing anything about you and see if they willing to have you see a specialist. They know you better than I do. But they are not professionals. If the parents say nothing is wrong and to forget it, go see your school counselor, explain how you feel, and that the parents believe there is nothing wrong. And if you want to discover what the problem is, ask how you can get to see a doctor or mental health person to be tested.
Good luck.
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