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worried about future life as I 'm already used
I am very much confuse me and are intermediate 4-5 times but now he leaved me what should I have to do if I got married with someone else one frst night he will easily know that I 'm already used and no will accept me plz help me I have no chance rather than suicide.
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You must be from a country where pre-marital sex for a woman is taboo. Nice double standard. Men can have all the sex they want before they marry and probably after they marry too. Though on the wedding night they want a virgin in their bed. I don't understand their thinking on this for eventual their demand is going to outstrip the supply of women and their will be no virgins left for the wedding night.
Be that as it may there is no way a man can tell if his bride is a virgin or not on the wedding not, not in these modern times. What the man is looking for is an in tact Hymen which to him signifies a virgin. Today a Hyman can be lost in a variety of ways other than by sexual penetration.
Tampon usage ranks high on the list of Hyman busters, followed by women who may be active in school sports, horseback riding or even cycling. Dancers especially Ballet will tear their Hymens long before they have sex and if they studied Ballet as children possibly long before the needed tampons.
How tight you are when he first penetrates you also means nothing. IF your not ready for penetration your going to be tighter and not well lubricated. To him this will indicate virginity. If your loose and well lubricated then he is a skillful and caring lover.
The long and short of it, no pun intended, is there is no way for hi or a doctor to tell with any certainty if you are a virgin or not.
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Are you from a country that has a taboo against pre-marital sex for women? Ever wonder who came up with that rule? Just look at the men. It is okay for them to have all the pre-marital sex they want and when they decide to marry they don't care if the bride is concerned that he has had sex before with other women. It takes using a woman for a guy to have had sex before getting married.
If a guy who has interest in you really loves you, it shouldnt matter. He would have to be willing to go against the expected social norms and beliefs of the country we're talking about.
If a man who has been sexual before expects you to be pure but it was okay for him to "ruin" a woman as he would call it, then he is doing the double standard. Its okay for him but not for you. This shows total disregard for women, more of a 'women are to be owned and controlled' type of attitude. Thats the worst type of guy to marry. If I were you, i would continually refuse to marry until I found a guy who loved me for who I was now, not basing his love on me depending on whats in my past. And there is no way anyone, even doctors can tell if you have had sex before.
It is a total made up fairy tale that all women have an intact hymen if they are virgins. No that is false.
Some womens hymens never tear and bleed. Hymens are like rubber bands, and can slowly be stretched out. Using tampons may stretch them, using your fingers in masturbation may stretch them out. May true virgins have been killed by family who thought she was not a virgin just because she did not bleed on her wedding night. That is another falsehood men came up with that was created just to suit their whims.
You do not need to end your life over this. If you do, then you're just letting the men who continue to spread these false beliefs win. Women need to speak up for their rights.
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There is no way for anyone to be able to know whether you were intimate with someone. Not even a doctor can tell whether you have been intimate with someone.
If you meet someone else that you want to marry, it is none of his or her business whether or not you were intimate before you met him or her!
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