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should i allow my bf to touch his penis on my ass
my boyfriend wants to insert his penis in my ass.. but im not allowing as we are only 17! now he just wants to touch his penis on my ass.. im not ready for that also as im scared of precum.. he cannot take a condom.. so he has asked for using plastic instead of condom. is it ok to allow him to cover his penis with plastic bag and let him touch my ass?is it safe?
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Uuuummmm, if you're not comfortable with it then no...and why can't he use conforms? Is he allergic? A plastic bag is not sanitary nor effective. Your bf sounds like an idiot no offense and if he is so fascinated with Anal sex maybe you should ask him if you can try it on him first with a large dildo. But most importantly y'all are 17, shouldn't you be doing science fair projects and history reports instead of f'n around??!!!
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While I do not agree in total with the previous two advisors there is some good advice in both answers. I'm going to give you a different approach to your questions
First lets talk about condom usage. You say your boyfriend cannot take a condom. There is only one valid reason for your boyfriend not wanting to use a condom and that is most are made of Latex and he has a latex allergy. If this is the case they make condoms out of sheep's skin they are more expensive than Latex condoms though he should not be allergic to them. Sheepskin condoms are also thinner than Latex ones and will provide him with a greater amount of feeling which is another benefit.
Any other reason he may give you for not wearing a condom is just plain BS. Most men or boys do not like condoms because they degrease the sensitivity he feels. Frankly that is tough especially if you are going to have anal sex. More germs reside in the anus than any other part of the body. Remember the anus is the exit port for the bodies waste system. All of the bodies toxins exit through the anal canal and many germs reside there. These germs can be transferred from him to you through other sexual acts no matter how thoroughly he washes his penis after anal sex.
Long story short, no condom NO SEX OF ANY TYPE, ANAL OR OTHER WISES. THIS IS FOR YOUR PROTECTION AS WELL AS HIS.
One of the other reasons you gave was precum. Lets take this question next:
The only time you have to worry about precum is with vaginal sex and not being on birth control or using a condom. While a condom should be used for anal sex if it isn't and the boy cums or has a precum discharge in the anal passage. There is no fear of pregnancy as the anal canal and the reproductive system are not connected. Just like oral sex you cannot get pregnant by swallowing the boys cum as the digestive system and the reproductive systems are separate. None of these systems interconnect.
The only way a woman can get pregnant is through vaginal sex. In some way sperm has to enter her vagina. Swim up to the fallopian tube and find an egg to fertilize. There is no other way.
Now as for not being ready. This I believe is the real reason. If you're not ready to do something sexually that's it. You say no and that is the end of the question. Any further pushing, begging or forcing of the issue becomes sexual harassment which is a crime.
In order for any type, of sex to take place, be it a blow job, a hand job or intercourse of any type both parties have to be mutually agreeable. If either party says no and the other continues or forces the other then it is rape.
As I said above to continue to pressure the other party into doing so can also be sexual harassment. If the other party consents just to get away or to get the other party to stop pressuring then it is still considered rape.
You did not say whether you are just not ready for anal sex or any type of sex. It does not matter. Until you are ready and you may never be ready for anal sex, he has to stop asking or he is sexually harassing you.
Now as for using plastic as a condom the answer is NO. It will not protect from any of the STDS a condom protects from and it will not protect you from getting pregnant if you have vaginal sex. IF you decide to have any type of sex with him including anal sex he has to use a condom. If you can't wear a latex one have him get a sheepskin one.
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You have a pretty flimsy reason for not allowing him to have anal sex with you. With your line of thinking, the next question woud be: At what age do you suppose it is okay to have anal sex?
You need to have it clear in your mind why you do not want anal sex, or anything sexual to do with him. It shouldn't be age that makes a difference but whether you are ready for it or not, if you want it or not. End of story!!
If a 28 year old woman goes on a date a 2nd time with a guy and this time he pressures her to have sex with him and she doesnt want to, when he asks why not, should she say....because I am 28 or because I am not interested in doing anything sexual with you at this point.
As you can see, a plastic bag used or not, or condom doesnt even become an issue if you just say no. And if he won't take no for an answer, no matter how cute he is, no matter how badly you want a boyfriend,
you must keep clear in your mind that the purpose for dating is to learn what you like and don't like about another person, how he treats a girl. He badly wants sexual experiences. So does every other teenage boy. Some will wait until both he and girlfriend have really deep feelings for each other, really caring and putting the comfort and feelings of the other first. Other teen boys will continuously whine and pressure girls to 'put out' and in this case ...what does the girl get out of it if she wasn't emotionally ready? Nothing but a poor memory and regrets, or maybe a pregnancy.
You started out with "my boyfriend wants..." that says a lot, he is making his demands known of what he wants. Is he asking you what "You want?" Probably not. He is approaching this relationship wrong. He should be asking what would make you want and what would make you happy and do it...whether its a stroll in the park, brushing your hair, attending a concert with you, etc.
You said that he told you He cant wear a condom? Why? Did he explain? Did you ask? If he says cus he can't feel enough sensation through it, too bad. A responsible male wears a condom. If he's allergic to latex condoms, that's no excuse either. There are non latex condoms out there. He can find what brands to look for if he does a quick search on the internet.
Don't let him tell you its not sex simply cus it's not penis-in-vagina. There are many ways to be sexual with another person. But there has to be a certain level of trust to be that intimate with another person. If you're not ready to kiss, take off your clothes in front of him and are only considering doing this to make him happy, you set him up to learn to become a spoiled brat. He will learn to make demands and expect to get them or threaten to break off the relationship and will never think once of treating the girl nicely.
He isn't concerned about pregnancy cus he can't get pregnant. A guy who really cares about the girl he is dating and when both of them are ready for sex, will not only make sure she goes to Planned Parenthood to get on birth control, but will still use condoms to make sure no STD's are passed on.
If he thinks he'd be satisfied with only touching the tip of his penis to the skin of one of your butt cheeks, did you even think about that, if it isnt the vagina or the anus, skin anywhere else on the outside of the body is just the same. If he wants to know what it feels like to touch the tip of his penis to your butt cheek, he can just do that to the inside of your arm while you are fully clothed.
Such a stupid statement, "Let me just touch the skin of your ass with my penis and I'll be satisfied." Baloney!
The answer is simple, if you aren't ready to have sex yet, or just plain don't want to with him, then don't. Plastic bags or not safe. If he threatens to break up, dont let that intimidate you. Break up with him first. Tell him he is too immature and inconsiderate for you and let him go. A girl who knows what she wants, set ground rules of what is okay or not, sets barriers and requires a guy to follow it, will find in time that she begins to attract better quality males. There are teen guys who are good quality and worth the time to date, maybe not many of them but they exist. This kind of confidence is what makes a girl attractive to a guy and good guys find that kind of confidence sexy without demanding sex.
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I am 18 and I have had unprotected anal sex multiple times. Do not fret, condoms prevent STD's but me and my bf are both clean so for anal, you can't get pregnant from precum but be safe if you need to. If you ever decide to do anal use lots of lube. Just touching your ass with it does nothing but turn him on, there's no sexual dangers in that. Also no, using a plastic bag does nothing at all for you. It won't protect you from pregnancy, it won't protect you from STD's, there's no point in it. Also, never do anything you're uncomfortable with or not ready for, simply tell him you're not ready. :3 Communication is key!
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