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Telling people.
I have been depressed and have had sucidal thoughts and have self harmed for a while now. I really feel like I need to tell one of my friend but I don't know how please help!
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This has happened to me before, so I know how you feel. I was eventually able to get over it on my own (Without telling anyone), but the feeling never really went away. I don't recommend just letting it go away, as it may come back later on in life. One thing you could do is go to your best friend (The one you can trust, that understands you and won't call you a crazy lunatic or something.), and say to them, "{Friend's name}, I need to talk to you about something...". Go to a private location and tell them how you're feeling. If they're a good friend, they'll care and want to help. Just talking to someone might make the pain go away. You could also tell your parents, siblings (This one is a maybe, it depends on what kind of siblings you have, if any), psychiatrist, or school counselor about your problems, whatever they may be. They're always there to help! No matter how unloved and unwanted you feel, there will always be someone in the world that needs you, even if it doesn't always feel that way. Best of luck. :)
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Telling a friend is a good idea to help you get back from the edge at the moment. What you really need is professional help to find out why you feel this way. I have been where you are and I know that you are reading what I am writing and saying I'm wrong that you can get through this yourself. That is the depression talking.
What you need to do is pick up a phone and dial 911. Tell the call taker just what you have told us. Help will be sent to you. Your age is not a factor in calling 911. If you are a young teen you do not need permission to call 911. Calling 911 is the same as going to a police officer if you’re lost or scared. You don't need permission for that. IF for some reason you are afraid to tell your parents then this is definitely a reason to call 911.
What will happen is the call taker will most likely stay on the line and talk with you until help arrives. Most likely that help will be the closest police officer and firefighters from the nearest fire station followed by paramedics. They all have one interest your wellbeing.
The purpose of the police officer is to see to it that the fire fighters and paramedics are allowed to check on you should your parents not want them to see you. After talking with you if the paramedics feel you need to be seen by a doctor they will take you to the hospital to see one. So be honest with them and answer all their questions.
Parents sometimes think children that are acting depressed are being melodramatic over something that may have happened. They can be very wrong.
If you are an adult like myself and you are feeling depressed then there are other reasons for this to be happening. Only a doctor can help you to overcome these feeling. Self-harm does not help feeling depressed and it can be very dangerous so please call 911 now.
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When you're feeling like this it is good to talk rather than hide it away. Suicidal thoughts, and self-harming can indeed be dificult to discuss as there they're things we might feel quite guilty about, a bit ashamed of admitting to...feel it makes us stand out, not look or be 'normal' like everyone else seems to look and be. Nothing you're telling me here is making me think 'freak' or 'weirdo'...and I can tell you for sure that there are VERY many people feeling right now (or who have felt for a while)EXACTLY the same. This I promise you. Some of them perhaps didn't want to talk either? Choose a good friend, one you like and trust and can be relied on. And start trying to tell her. We want to start off a new, open and honest policy of talking about stuff like this...why not start with your friend? Not sure of your age, but as dragonflymagic metioned it could be that you need some help, back-up and resources to get you over this that only adults can arrange and deliver. So next people to approach and tell would be parents. Use the confidence you've found in talking about it to friends to encourage you, and just pour it all out. It'll be easier than you think once you make a start. Of course, if you want to discuss it a bit, hammer out a few things, practice talikng about these emotions and feelings...well there are plenty of anonymous (and free-thinking and non-judgemental in most cases I find) adults right here! And it's free. So get writing if you want a bit of help, or just practice. You can address private questions to individuals if you like, or throw your problem/feelings 'open' to the whole lot of us! Let's start talking?? X
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Telling a friend who cares about you is all well and fine dear but he or she is not equipped to or even remotely able to get you the help you need.
I am a mom of 3 girls. I was very active and 'there' for my girls. We talked often about anything and everything. I was the kind of mom they could share anything with and I wouldnt fly off the handle. So they knew they could trust me. Yet for some reason, my oldest daughter never told me she was depressed as a teen. I learn this years later after it got worse after she had her first baby and then finally went in to see a doctor for treatment.
There were no visible signs to give me a clue. She chose to not tell me anything and since I was not a mind reader, I couldnt help her.
I don't know your situation dear. If your family life IS the reason you are depressed or suidical then you need to go see an outside source for help and the very best is to go to your school counselors who will put you in touch with a professional who can help.
If you have a pretty good home life and nice parents, then please talk to mom.
What I have discovered to be an alarming number of teens girls and boys affected by depression today, more so than when I was growing up. I have read recent on line articles that explain that we live in a very toxic environment. Young childrens bodies are taking in hormones through food, plastics, and other things in our environment. When especially girls go through puberty, they begin to have a release of the female hormones that are part of growing up and those added to whats already accumulated in their body is now an overload, too much and the result is severe depression and anxiety issues. The other problem is that their body fails to produce the amount of hormones needed, and they can the same issue from under producing hormones. A trip to the family doctor and a simple blood test should be able to tell if that is the issue in which case you are put on medication just for the teen years until your body begins to produce more normal levels later. Some cases may need to remain on medication like my daughter. You are not a bad person nor imperfect because of this...it is a medical problem that is becoming a emotional issue in todays time. If you've been feeling like this since just before getting your period for the first time, Its a good chance its linked to your hormones. Treat the hormone imbalance and most likely your emotional health goes back to normal, no depression, suicidal thoughts or cutting. If you've done cutting long enough to simply do it out of habit, then some counseling to help break the bad habit but other than that, it should be okay. Please talk to the parents dear. I wish my daughter had talked to me.
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