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42 year old and an 18 year old dating advice
So do you think it could work between an 18 year old female and a 42 year old woman. I know it's 24 year difference. Heres some background on this exact situation. I'm the 18 year old I met this woman when I was 14 and I didn't have feelings for her until 17 almost 18 and I want to ask her on a date but before I do, do you think it could work?
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Anything is possible! I have seen this work. I think in this particular situation you are looking for a mother figure. Maybe you do like older women, however think about how this will impact her life as well. Does she seem to like you? What signals does she give off?
You are both at different points in your life which makes it hard to relate. It does not hurt to ask her out on a date though.
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First a question or two? Are you sure of her sexuality? "Is she a lesbian or bisexual?" Given the age difference between you are you looking for a mother daughter type relationship? For that is what it looks like.
If you are looking for a mother daughter type relationship then the chances of this relationship working out are possibly 50/50. This would depend on her if she is willing to have such a relationship and if you can find a compatible style. Should you be looking for a more equal style of relationship then I have to agree with Razhie an what she wrote and give this relationship a 1in 10 chance of working.
If you want to ask her on a date you need to first make sure she is a lesbian or at least bisexual. Otherwise you are going to be embarrassed. If she accepts your offer of a date and things go well then the two of you need to talk if you have any chance at a relationship.
For what it is worth I think you would be better off finding someone your own age. There is nothing wrong with dating someone older than you. someone this much older there is bound to be problems that in the end will harm any relationship you want to have.
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Probably not.
And 18 year old and a 42 year old (assuming they are both mentally healthy) are very, very unlikely to have the same expectations from a relationship, or the same needs. They are also unlikely to be equals in society, who can make the same choices about where to live and what to do. Most 18 year olds are still dependant on their parents to some extent, and are not financially stable. Most 42 year olds are.
Most 18 year olds are trying to figure out what work they want to do. Most 42 year olds are planning the last few jobs they want to have before they retire.
Normal, healthy 18 year olds and 42 year olds are likely to live in vastly different worlds, with different needs, plans and different sorts of restrictions.
So no, it's probably not going to 'work' if by working you mean will you live happily ever after until one of you dies. That's unlikely. But that also isn't the only reason to date someone. If you like this person, and are attracted to them, then by all means ask them out. Just be realistic and realize that you are at vastly different places in your lives, and take care of yourself first and foremost.
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