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Moms moving out, where do I go?
Ok, so I am in my early 20's and plan to start looking for a place of my own soon (3-6 months). My mom is looking for a 1 bedroom apartment because our current place (2 bedroom house) is literally falling apart. Anyways her boyfriend found a place that is in her area of preference and within her budget so she plans on applying to the unit. I support her decision to move into a 1 bedroom because realistically that's all she needs and I'm only home maybe 3 days a week. My dilemma is that I don't have anywhere to move my stuff into. My boyfriends house is super small, and my sister just had a baby so really I have no where to go. The easy thing to do would be pay rent but I am saving for a home which is why I still need a bit more time. I am trying to rent a storage unit at my friends apartment for my furniture, desk etc but where do I go with my stuff? (Clothes, computer, etc?) my other option is to crash on my moms couch when/if she moves but I still don't have space anywhere for my stuff. Basically, I feel like I will be homeless, living out of bags. Even if I moved I to my boyfriends house ( which I do not want to do) there is no space for anything! Not even a couple pairs of jeans! So I really don't know what to do, and I want to come up with a plan before it's too late! Thanks for your help..
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A person in your position needs to lighten their load so I like what pinkpolkadots said about selling some things. I have late in life has a series of circumstances where I have had to move after 6 months one place, 2 at another, 3 1/2 mo, etc...and each time I moved I lightened my load. Every time I had a chance to be in one place 2 yrs or so, it was amazing how quickly I collected 'stuff'...maybe needful but stuff all the same. I also once put all my belonging in a rental unit and twice, I've been in a position of having no where permanent to live and living out of a large lawn size trash bag for my clothing in a corner of someones home. After paying almost $100. per month on storage for 7 months to a year, each time I found that when I decided to close the storage unit, I gave away, sold or got rid of most of what I had. I have learned to not be as sentimental about tons of things, only a handful, discover duplicate uses for many things such as kitchen items rather than having a separate piece of each job so I can look like I have a chefs kitchen when I don't have a kitchen of my own let alone a place of my own. It is easier to re fit a place with furnishings than drag it along. Another place you can find great stuff besides Craigslist, is on line recyclling of items places so the things are free. I know of one called Freecycle and they may be across the U.S. but not sure. You'd have to do an online search for your area when ready. My daughter when first getting her own place got almost brand new looking living rm sectiionals cus the owners wants to redecorate, and baby items like crib, playpen after being bought and used on one baby only before being given away free. I can't say where to look but maybe some girlfriends can take you in until you've saved enough to move into your own place.
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Does your mom mind having you for a temporary situation? If not, maybe she'd let you set up a corner in the living room or something with a mattress (maybe an air mattress or something so she could take it down if she had guests) and maybe a small dresser or something if you have one? You'd have a place to sleep and put some clothes and computer stuff could easily go on top of the dresser. If you used an air mattress you could also fold that up and put it behind the dresser so there wouldn't be anything to conspicuous for your mom when you aren't there. You don't say that she's against you staying with her so maybe this could be a good option?
For the rest of your stuff that you won't need until the move, I would recommend either a) shopping around (this is important to get a good price) for a storage unit, or b) sell what you have that is of value, and buy new or used stuff when you move with the cash you made off the old stuff. Craigslist is a great place to list this kind of stuff. Maybe since your mom is downsizing too, she might want to slim down on her stuff or might be looking to buy new stuff too, you guys could have a yard sale or something.
The storage unit will be much much cheaper than rent, and usually if you pay for the 3-6 months up front they will discount the monthly rate (you have to ask though!). If you sell what you can and lighten the load so to speak it will feel much easier to work with just you and the necessities. And when it comes time to move into your own place, it can be really fun to go on those shopping trips either to garage sales, flea markets, or furniture stores to furnish your new place! At least it is for me but I'm a home decorating junkie, haha! If your worried about that costing too much trust me you can get fabulous deals at garage sales (flea markets too but unless you live in a good sized city they can be hard to find), and there's always IKEA!
3-6 months is really not that long and when it's done with it won't feel like hardly any time at all.
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