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What's wrong with me?
Hi, I'm a teenage girl and I've always felt there's something wrong with me because of the way everyone treats me. They always leave me out, and I am a gal who usually goes with the flow, but to be honest with you, I'm tired of being silent. I have no friends, the people I hang with make fun of me, laugh at me, and some kick/hit me. I've been stressing over this matter for 5 years. I've spoke to some people about this and they've said its the things I focus on, apparently, that is why people treat me different. Others say I need to find help. Believe it or not, I've considered self harm because this is eating me alive! It's like this little trigger in my brain, it goes off every time someone treats me strange. People never smile at me, they just stare and watch me, some will nod their head at me and look at me with hatred in their eyes...Why won't anyone tell me what's wrong with me? What is wrong with me?
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Hi,
Why blame yourself?
People probably feel threatened by you- could possibly lash out at you because they cant handle the truth of their own selves.
Better to be alone and focused on something you are interested in than looking to other people fir your self worth-
Dont judge your internals by other peoples externals, and forget about self harn- they wouldnt notice anyway so why punish yourself! Live life, work hard, study, travel- see the world baby! Xoxi
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There is not a farm thing wrong with you okay you have to start there then dont let them no your sacred when they look at you like that look at them like that let them no whos in charge
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If the people you hang with are treating you that way, its time to hang out with other people. You are not the only one who feels left out. There are many many others. I was one of those as a teen who did not really fit in any group. I wasn't one of the populars, the brainiacs, the science/nerds, the emo's, or the goths. Actually I don't think Goths were a group yet when i was in school. Emo's yes but they didn't have a name. I don't like labeling but at your age, kids tend to form tight clicks. They are nervous and fearful around anyone different from them. What they don't understand or care to learn to understand, they mock, tease or treat cruelly. You actually see it with adults too sometimes only they've become more sophisticated at how they exclude and try to shame others. These kids you have not yet found for good friends, are not very noticeable, they tend to fade into the background, try their best to not be noticed or do anything to get noticed and mind their own business.
The real overweight kids have the same problem of no friends. I taught my daughters to accept everyone no matter what, so though my girls were not one of them, they accepted the overweight girls, the goth, pagan, christian, emo's, the gays, the so called outcasts. The outcast kids tend to have higher rates of cutting, depression and suicide than others with those of alternative sexual and gender situations, the highest suicide rate. They all feel alone. Instead of feeling alone, if each one who feels like you started looking around and really searching for those who sit alone at lunch, who act shy and barely talk, walk around looking down at their feet, you will begin to notice them. Befriend someone like that. When you 'be a friend' or be friendly towards someone outcast like you, you will make a friend. These kids will accept you exactly how you are, even if you look strange or have strange mannerisms or beliefs.
A strange thing will happen over time. Those who have compromised their beliefs and pretended to be one of those of the popular group only because they feared being alone like you... when they see a group of people, average teens with all their differences becoming a good size group of friends, they will see these kids, like yourself, as an option of people to identify themselves with, to find friends in. And they will leave the populars and come to join your group and become accepted by you, even those some of these were the ones who first played along and kicked, and teased you. It may take all of high school and some of college for many to mature and thats okay.
i know you can find at least a handful of friends, I know because I did. In 9th grade I was in a separate school and had two girls who were lesbians as my friends tho I am not, two guys who were the nerdy type, actually one wasnt but hung out with the nerds cus he didnt fit anywhere else and a black girl in an almost white school. In highschool I had begun going to church youth group so I had lots of christian friends in the school and we welcomed the girls who weren't christian but had no where else to fit in. There is hope dear. Good luck.
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I was exactly like you but I knew how to be more out going and everyone loves me
SO here what I did
1-((be kind but not too much))
because being kind too much make everyone loves you and then you stuck in middle of everyone get love you. I am now kind too much I never argue or fight with who hurts me and that's sucks ,even lesbians in my school loves me and run after me ,and that it's completely sucks ((so be kind not too much I warned you))
2-((be respectful)) to teachers first and your classmates and be your self in the class but more out going off the class .by this most teachers loves me and really smile at my face from ear to ear whenever I talk to them.
3-((smile from your heart not a fake smile ))not a big smile just a light smile when you deal with strangers or someone you know.smile whenever you feel it's ok to do that.
4-((be more out going out side your classes in the break for e.g))
It's just that what I do and now most people love me and I am almost famous in my school.It's simple people will love you from your personalty +this point :)
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