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He told me he loved me
I am 24 years old and my boyfriend that I have been dating for about 3 days now told me he loved me with the bottom of his soul . I have known this guy since High school if that helps any. I asked him how can you love me that much if we have only been dating 3 days he said he felt this way about me ever since we were in High school but I was to busy dating everyone else and then he asked me to the senior prom and I turned him down I guess because I was still trying to get over my ex at the time and I was scared of getting hurt again . Is it possible for him to love me with the bottom of soul like he says he does when we have only been dating 3 days even though we have known each other since High school and I don't understand why don't feel the same way he does about him as he does about me why is that ?
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I would say you are wondering if his love is a true love or one that is more of an infatuation that has built over time since high school. Fact is both are possible. Only time will tell you for certain. More important is the question for you. Do you think a romance can be had with him. IF you feel that is it possible then continue to see him and see where it leads. If not don't lead him on as right now he is living his dream dating the girl he has been fascinated with 6 years or more.
If you believe in love at first sight then it is very possible to believe he is truly in love with you. I met my wife 43 years age and we have been married for 42 of them. We talked by phone for a month or so as we both worked for the same company and phone between us where a requirement of the job. I knew when I finally met her that this was the girl I would marry. Later my wife told me she knew the same thing when we first met. So to me love at first sight is and was possible. Our marriage has outlasted several of our friends marriages who dated several years before they married.
So the short and real answer to your question rests with you and how you feel about him.
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Answer to is it possible to feel that way about someone even if dating a few days?
Yes it is possible but the possibility is a very slight one. There just aren't many males who know exactly what they are attracted to in a female while yet in grade school or high school and feel the same in later years as an adult.
My husband is such an example. He tells me over and over how as an 8 yr old boy he would lay awake at night imagining what his wife would look like someday and her personality...not guessing but actual want of what he pictured in his mind. He dated, married and later in life divorced, and then found me and says I am the one he always dreamed of.
We met over internet. Spent an entire week of talking every night, then met once, next week too busy for us both so just more calls, then we see each other 3 days in a row, on the 4th date being with him, he told me he loved me. Thats usually not the thing to do so early in a relationship. Usually spooks and scares the other person away.
However in our case, even tho I was surprised and a bit leery at first, we both were mature adults who had been married before, done some dating and both knew exactly what we were looking for and we were exactly what the other had been needing and wanting.
Theres the fact you didnt date in highschool or right out of highschool. He didn't catch your interest then. So I am wondering if he changed somehow and thats why you agreed to date him now. Are you attracted to him in any way at all. If not at all, you should not be leading him on. If you are attracted to him but just don't feel any love, thats fine...that takes some time to develop if the chemistry is there for you both.
Take the time to get to know him.
You both need to discover what hobbies and goals you have in common, morals, hopes, dreams, beliefs and then personality traits about each other. Thats what time spent dating should be accomplishing.
One last thing, if somehow without dating, you and he have spent lots of time together hanging as friends, and really do know each other pretty good, and after a handful of months or yr or two, you have not developed any feelings for him, then likely there is not enough chemistry between you. Sometimes only one of two people are attracted to the other not both. Keep in mind, a healthy long term relationship does require having this romantic spark/chemistry or it will not be a happy one.
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