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feelings for my cousins husband
I think i might actually have feelings for my cousins husband I don't know what to do help .
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Feelings that are romantic rather than just platonic love for family members can happen but should not be acted upon. A likely reason is that you see some qualities in him, that you consciously or subconsciously like and want in a guy and so you feel awkward when its cousins husband.
Analyze what it is specifically that you found attractive enough to evoke feelings in you.
For example, perhaps it is his laugh, smile, fact that he has a soothing voice, is friendly, outgoing, extremely patient person. Never raise his voice, and always has a kind and supportive comment for everyone in his life. Those are wonderful qualities. Write them down and when you find a guy to date, see if he has some of these qualities. When I was young, before I married, I came across all sorts of men that captured my interest and some aspect of them, one or two caught my interest enough to have a crush. Some were barely older than me but had girlfriends, and then there were married men, teachers, husbands at church, guys I worked with, all unavailable.
It is not surprising to find a married man attractive because after all, there must have been some pretty good qualities about him to catch the interest of some female who snapped him up. JUst keep this one in the cousin in law catagory.
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You move on.
He's married, and not only that, he's married to your cousin so just let it go.
It's a difficult situation but you don't make a move. You do everything in your power to let him go and move on to someone else.
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Don't even go down that road. Having feelings for a family member and acting upon them in any way will only cause huge family problems. He is a married man assumedly happily married. stay away from him.
As you write to us you are the one with the attraction as you say nothing about him coming on to you. So what to do about this is to do nothing. Avoid him. Do not flirt with him or in anyway signal to him that you are available or to entice him away from his wife and family. IF you do you will be the one to suffer from your family. It is not worth it.
As my mother would say there are plenty of fish in the sea. Bait your hook and go fishing.
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