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He likes me i like him but he is so confusing...
So i just transferred high schools and i am a girl who is a Sophomore this year and i went to my very first football game!I don't really get in much relationships because i usally worry more about my school. I was at my very first football game and my friend knew some older people that go to our school. one of her friends (which is a guy) knew the guy that i currently like. Me and him did playful eye contact in the halls then we started to talk over facebook for 4 weeks straight every day after school.He finally asked me for my number and we would text all the time and he would say goodmorning and goodnight he would always tell me how i was a good person and i was so beautiful all the time.We started to grow closer and closer i hung out with him and we kissed but after he sent a text "i want you" i took it the worng way of course and i didnt quiet like what he said because i do not want to have a sexual realtionship wtih him.The nest day at school he didnt talk to me much and ditched me to hang out with other girls which i mean its not that big of a deal but i felt like i was trying to be proved somthing. The he started to hug the girls and i started to hug and talk to more of my guy friends as did he. Then the text started to go away and we wouldent talk anymore he even wrote me a song. then we got in a disagreement about how i wasent sure if he liked me and i was so confussed because he sent me mixed signals. He told me that he liked me and that we should hang out more and that he missed me but then two days later he got a girlfriend but he still gives me the eye contact and when i look up he looks away and he just dosent look as happy as he usally does. He cant look me in the eye and he changed the wways he goes in the halls so he dosent have to see me. i dont understand what i did wrong and i don't know if he likes me still he acts like he likes me and i think he just expected me to be sad over it but i just dont know...
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I'm just going to straight up say that you should move on.
Did you ever talk about the "I want you" text? I mean normally I would've taken it as a sexual advance as well. Especially under the circumstances.
He doesn't sound like someone you'd want to get involved in. You said he ditched you to hang out with other girls. Then he tells you he misses you and that he likes you, but then gets a girlfriend.
It's just a bunch of games and he is not serious about you.
If he was serious about you, he would be dating you, not her.
If he's just trying to make you jealous, you should not be with him. It is wrong to date somebody else and play with their feelings just to get back at somebody. That's childish and immature.
It is wrong to ditch someone to go hang out with other girls.
You guys are just playing games and it's not gonna go anywhere.
You didn't do anything wrong. You didn't know any better about this guy. He's the one who is jumping from girl to girl. Obviously you're not the only girl he's talking to so it's just best to move on.
If you get involved with him, it will just cause more heartache.
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this happens to every girl in the world i promise you that..and the only thing you can do is confront them. The reason why he isnt talking to you though is probably because you took the "I want you" the wrong way. usually when guys say that they mean they want you as in as a "girlfriend". but dont worry because many girls take that the wrong way. And the fact is, if he STILL makes eye contact with you and wrote a SONG ABOUT YOU, he probably has you in the back of his mind and is dating the girl so you can get jealous. whats a better way to make a girl go crazy about you :P So my advice would be to really go up to him and talk to him about it because you guys wont be able to break the wall between you too( wall=problem) so you guys can understand how you guys feel. Hope everything truly works out <3
Sincerely;
Nobody :)
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I cant tell for sure but he may have had some expectations or beliefs in his mind of how a dating relationship should go. If this started at the beginning of the school year, then the two of you haven't been together long enough to have built a bond of deep friendship, and respect and caring for each other. This initial attraction and chemistry is good, it is enough to want to spend time together and to talk and even kiss and hold hands. But for a young teen who may or may not have had her first sexual encounter, it is way too soon in the relationship for him to be hinting at wanting sex with you and expecting you to be so ready to do so. Sex just for sex sake if thats what a person wants is okay. But the most rewarding kind is when there are deep feelings for the other person and they have the same feelings back...its not one sided..
If he still looks at you but tries to avoid you, maybe he really does have feelings and was hurt because he meant something else by those words "i want you" like I need your company, i am lonely, lets hang out. The best way to find out what he meant, even after all this time, is to just ask him. The two of you need a real good conversation of asking each other questions and explaining your stances of how you feel.
Let him know there are no wrong answers and ask that he be truthful with you. You both must be truthful so that you can see where you do and don't agree.
State your boundaries and expectations. If he doesn't wish to abide by them, then obviously, no matter that there was initial attraction, you aren't right for each other.
You will find that just because there is initial attraction, the person isn't automatically perfect for you once you take the time to spend time getting to know each other.f
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