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How should I act around this guy?
I am a 20 year old girl. I have seen this guy 4 times. Two of them we were hanging out, once in a group, the other we went for coffee. We've only known one another for a short time, but I am quite sure I want to be his friend. But the trouble is, I seem to have quite a crush on him. I'm not sure what to do. He is popular and I am not. I don't want to be obvious about liking him. But I'm afraid to make a fool of myself around him.
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Just be yourself...but you should have put in your question how he acts around you and if he shows any signs of liking you or not :l and if he dose want to be your friend then it doesn't matter if hes popular ,cause if he cares about you then hell hang out with you. But as i said be yourself and start flirting and your not going to make yourself look like a fool because knowing guys they'll think its korky and really cute ;)
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How should you act around this guy? You need to act like yourself. I mean if you start acting how you normally won't act, you're just simply putting on an act and he'll be falling for someone that isn't even really you.
Other than that, be friendly, be sweet, be kind, and be a little flirty with him. Like compliment him every once in awhile. Be genuine.
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How to act? Be yourself. Sounds too simple but it's the best policy. To put on an act or be something or someone you are not, just to attract a person eventually backfires. It takes more personal energy than one might think to keep a false facade in place and after a few months, a few can hold out a year, then the mask begins to slip and the real you comes out. It is too stressful mentally and even physically to try to keep up a pretense. There's nothing more rewarding than having a guy attracted to you for who you are. And before you say there's nothing about you to be attracted to, yes there is. The younger guys sometimes are attracted to the more flashy girls but eventually all guys are going to discover what they are really attracted to in looks and personality. Some guys like girls who don't wear makeup, have natural looks like 'the girl next door look', prefer small boobs, and yet others aren't attracted to anything but the plumper or overweight girls. Same goes for personalities, some prefer a more quiet type than the popular extrovert.
The initial attraction and crush does not necessarily mean you'll both have a lot in common and have chemistry together. But that IS where the process starts. To discover if there is something more between you, you have to spend time together. One of you or both of you may discover, there isn't even enough interest to remain just friends. But I do believe friendship is a great place to start with the right guy. If a friendship is in place before moving into a romantic relationship, thats a recipe for success because some of the healthiest long term relationships are couples who are each others best friend besides sweetheart. If he is willing to be friends, great, and if not, there wasn't enough attraction to your personality to begin with. So don't get all worked up over something that was never there to begin with.
I say to enjoy the feeling of the crush but you don't have to act on it. Just enjoy the friendship for now. Watch for clues that he is interested in you romantically. There will be flirting clues and body language. I will attach an article about the body language, things like choosing to come stand within arms length of you or sit very close, lean towards the person when in conversation and subconsciously mimicking each others moves. Good luck dear
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