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My friends turned on me
I have been friends with a girl since the 3rd grade (i am now in the 8th grade)when we went into the 8th grade she started spreading lies about me and started spreading rumours about me.I don't want to be her friend any more but she knows all my secrets and blackmails me into doing things i don't want to do by saying that she will tell everyone.she is my only friend and nobody in my school likes me because i am socially awkward and dont get good grades ( i live in india and everyone judges you by what grades you get )what should i do and how can i get better grades ?
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I don't know your secrets. So I don't know if they could actually be very terrible or if they are small and you can move past them.
She is no longer your friend. Friends don't do things like that to each other. Who knows why she decided to act like this, it's extremely immature.
So as your friend problem, she is not your friend. You should not consider her your friend. I know lots of socially awkward people who have friends. It's not an excuse to try to make friends so put yourself out there and make new friends who won't treat you like garbage.
As for getting better grades, study hard, don't miss classes, even form a study group. A study group can also lead you to making new friends. Or you could even find someone else to help you and eventually become friends with them.
You could also talk to your teacher and I'm sure they will help you with what you don't understand.
Dump this "friend" of yours, don't listen to what she says about you, and make new friends.
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Ok im not saying this is the best advice but if she knows all youre secrets then don't you know some of hers too ? im not saying go and tell all her secrets im saying focus on youre school work and if you hear a rumor about you started by her say one of her secrets then act like you don't care it will push her buttons the way shes pushing yours its basically saying two can play at this game so keep your mouth shut
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First shes not a great friend at all. Just cause your awkward does not mean you can't make new friends and about your grades you should maybe study or just focus on homework instead of all the lies your friends is making up that only letting get what she wants. What she wants is you to feel like you only have her as friend. Prove to her that you don't need her and that you can get better grades. You said it yourself that people judge by grades so just focus on that then the lies your friend is saying because if you get bad grades they won't focus on the lies or secrets they will focus on the grades. Maybe even then you can find the true friends that you are looking for. I'm going to give you a tip never trust your friends right away with your secrets because you never know what could happen it more like a lesson learned I mean went through the same.i was with a group of friends that I thought were true but they weren't I eventually found new friends just know that there's lot of other people that go through bad friendships. Good luck! :)
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I don't know what your secrets are, but can they really be all that worth keeping secret and getting blackmailed to keep secret?
If it's embarassing moments, you need to get past feeling awkward for past things you did and didn't know any better, And if its related to having done something wrong, then its high time to confess to whatever you did and face any repercussions from it. As you can see, keeping it quiet, only makes you feel forced into doing even more wrong to keep the girl quiet. I wouldnt count on her keeping whatever it is a secret even if you do her bidding. She could easily get you to do lots of awful things, and then still tell because it sounds like she's a person with no moral character. You can't make deals with a dishonest person.
A friend does not treat a friend that way. A friend is loving and trustworthy. So dont call her a friend. Anyone who believes anything she says about you without bothering to find out for themselves, is also of the same class of negative, destructive, immature people as she is. You may be socially awkward and shy but so was I as a teen. I had a small group of friends, 5 or 6 but they treated me well. They were like me, the good kids, who treated people well, had morals and we would not get involved in much at school to not draw attention to ourselves. If you look hard enough, you will find others just like you and find some true friends. Not everyone is going to be like your ex friend.
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