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Should I text him?
Okay, so like 2 weeks ago I ask this guy I liked to come bowling with me and some of my co-workers. He said yes the firs time I asked him and when he gave me his number and I texted him if he was still coming, he asked what time, I told him and he didn't say anything. So we had to changed the time we were going and I texted him the new time and he never got back to me. So, we still went bowling and I haven't heard from him. I haven't texted him since than, and my friends think that he might think that I'm mad at him for not going but I'm not, its whatever. So, I still really like him, and should I text him, and if I do what should I say? Cuz, I feel like if I don't say anything, nothing is really going to happen...
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Don't think of it as him not being interested in you, because he could just have phone troubles haha. I suggest that you text him, because it shows not only him but you that you're trying.
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there's so much more a person can pick up on body language if they were face to face rather than texting. I would suggest trying to catch him in person and give him a cheerful hello and say, "Hey I missed you the other day at bowling."
Then you could follow it with a comment that you use to 'fish' for some kind of response. "I hope it wasn't any kind of emergency that cropped up." Most people would just say yes or no it wasn't. And quite a few are tempted to give a short explanation.
If he doesn't, he could be a very private person and not very talkative. But it helps to see his face expressions. If he looks uncomfortable with coming face to face with you and not happy to see you then if I were you, I would point that out. "You don't look as happy to see me as last time. I can understand if something is going on in your life right now, or if you're not really interested in me as more than just a friend but I don't want to have to guess. I need you to be honest and clear with me. Also, if you're not totally free and have someone else you are dating, then let me know now and I will back away.(As much as it might crush you) Until he speaks up, you won't know what is going on.
If your friendly greeting reassures him that you're not mad and happy to see him, then he should respond favorably. But if you had to make the first approach, even if he is interested still, this may point to him not being a very self assured person...worried and second guessing what another person may be thinking of him, assuming the worst...and that is not a good sign so if you start dating, look for other signs of this cus in the long run, it could lead to issues on the relationship.
You could text him the same things i suggested but as you can see, if he chooses not to respond...you come to a quick dead end by not being able to read his body language.
If its been two weeks and he has not made any sort of gesture towards you, it could also be that he's a friendly person but not all that into you, and you misread his interest. But you won't know for sure until you try to start conversation with him. If its too hard to get him to respond, then let him go now. Try to remember exactly what about him you found attractive, his looks, his smile or laugh, and look for those things in the next guy you come across.
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