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My school told my parents i want to kill myself
This kid in one of my classes overheard that I wanted to kill myself (I wouldn't really do it, I was just mad and told my friend that) and the kid told my teacher. The school called my parents and told them... My parents want to talk about it, and I think my teacher is going to talk to me about it tomorrow but I've just been ignoring them and avoiding it. I don't want to show them my cuts or anything so yeah... What should I do? Just keep avoiding it? I don't want 'help' because I'm slowly getting better on my own and I don't want to talk about it.
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First let me say I'm old enough to be your grandfather so my advise will be that of a grandfather talking to a grandchild.
I understand what you mean when you said you wanted to kill yourself. You were mad about something and it just came out. The school may have over reacted. We all say something to that effect during times of high stress. It usually comes out as something like; "I could just kill myself." Most people just ignore the remark acknowledging it for what it is, frustration.
In your case you have to forgive the school to a certain extent. At the present time the amount of teenage suicide is almost epidemic. They cannot take the chance in not reporting your remark to your parents. In fact I am very surprised they did not over react and call the authorities to the school. That has been done at schools where I live.
Now I would like to address the cutting with you. The fact that you cut tells me you are under a great deal of stress. Now this stress can be self-imposed or it can come from outside influences it makes no differences. Stress is a major cause for concern both by you, your parents and the school.
Stress causes pain, pain causes depression, depression causes more pain. Psychologists call this the circle of depression. You cut to feel a physical pain to help relieve the emotional pain you are feeling.
It is unfortunate that you and many like you are under this type of stress. In fact when I was your age it was not looked at as stress it was looked at as a phase we all went through that we would grow out of. Most of us did some of us did not. Females suffer more than males. Why?
Well first of al the root cause is puberty something we all go through. Females suffer with puberty more than males because it causes more problems for them other than just a hormonal change. Their bodies change, the get their periods to deal with. Then their are the social changes they have to put up with, boys become all hands, dating and school and the changes there.
You start dressing differently. Gone are the nice comfortable T-shirts and on go the bra's and other feminine clothing. On top of all this people are telling you to act like adults. Your not an adult you a teenager.
Today the doctors have a diagnoses for what is affecting you. It is called teenage depression and you do not have to suffer with it for they can help you. Contrary to what you may have heard the medication will not make you walk around like a zombie. The medication is a simple hormone replacement to make up what you are deficient in that is causing the depression. It would be no different than taking a birth control pill which is also a hormone pill.
Now that I have explained this to you I would like you to discuss what is going on in your life, to the extent that you are comfortable with, with your parents. Ask them to get you professional help. First from a doctor who can prescribe the proper medication and then from a psychologist who is in reality you new best friend.
A psychologist is someone you can talk to in total confidence and tell him or her everything that is bothering you or ask any question you need and answer to. For what ever is said between is confidential and stays between the two of you. The purpose of working with the psychologist is to find the root cause of a depression and finding a better way to deal with as in your case than cutting. When the psychologists talks to your parents nothing you say is revealed. what your parents hear are suggestions in how your parents can help you at home and how you are progressing in therapy.
Please trust me in what I have said and in what I am about to say. This is not something you can fix by sheer will power alone. You need the help of professionals. Please do as I suggested and talk with your parents to the extent your comfortable and ask for help.
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I've had this happen to me. Although it wasn't about suicide, it was about self harm. My friend told the counselor and they called my parents.
I thought I could just stop on my own. Because I truly felt like I was getting better. But if something bad happened, I would just break down and do it again. It's not something you should turn to when you're upset, you know?
So the help isn't just about how to stop cutting, it's about finding other ways to deal with your problems. It's always so much better when there is someone else helping you and supporting you. Your family will be number one. I mean I'm sure your friends will love and support you, but obviously, it can get spread around.
It would be wrong of me to tell you to avoid it, because that's what I did. I almost killed myself, but it wasn't intentional. I just accidentally went to far with the cutting when I had a break down. You'll get over with it faster if you ask for help.
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Im sorry about all of that.I had the scholl gymk teacher notice my sself harm scars and cuts and tell my parents,even though they already knew.It sounds like you do want to talk about it, otherwise why even ask about it?Step one.Im just about clean now and i cut for 3 years severly, so why cant you?Try varius things like the butterfly project.Talk.I am always here,inbox me whenever.You need help.I did,it took a lot of amazing friends and therapy.You are not alone.I dont care what they say, talk to them.tell them what actually is going through your head,they may scream or cry, but thats block one of the road to recovery.Im sorry if i 'helped'.You say you dont ewant it...but do not kill yourself and try not to use phrases like that in everyday converstaions people can take it a bit too serously.Obviously.Good luck and fair winds to you,im always here.
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