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Life in general.
Hey, well, my mom has a blood clot in her lung which in the past she's has three and survived well she got another one recently in the last week and she gets the feel to think why did god save me from death again? I'm at loss don't know how to help her. My family has financial issues and my life is typically terrible. I feel like a complete failure to my family. Please help me. I am AT COMPLETE LOSS.
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I can definitely relate. My family has lived through countless things that almost killed them. It's truly a miracle.
You can't help her besides being there for her, loving her, and praying for her. As well for the rest of your family. That just all family is supposed to do. I mean besides the parents providing for the children with food and shelter.
I don't know how old you are, but just keep your head up. You're not the only one and you're definitely not alone.
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The two most stressful things any person can face are health issues or financial issues and you have both in your family.
Other than prayers for you and your family, there is nothing a single person can do to change your situation.
Every person has their challenges in life to go through, their own stress, heartbreaks, etc... and some will seem way easier to you than your own and you could find yourself saying, I'll trade you my troubles for yours any day...I can handle that.
Life is not fair. But when we look at hardships like this as a process rather than focus on ourselves, it begins to have meaning. Hang in with me, I'm about to explain what I mean.
Think of one of the most sought after stones, the diamond. It is so hard nothing can scratch it but it can scratch other things. From what I've read, the mineral s and everything that makes up a diamond had to go through incredible pressure to become what it is today. If the diamond in the making, were a person going through that kind of pressure, it would be crying out, Why me? What did I do wrong to deserve this awful treatment?
If it did not get the pressure, it would not become a diamond. So it is for our souls. The greater importance is the personal growth and the beauty in a soul that comes from going through horrible hardships in life, no matter what losses we experience, loss of a life, a job, a friend, etc... This won't make you feel any better but may help you understand the process, of what is going on.
In case you may think I cannot understand what you are going through, I will share some of the losses I have experienced. In 1998 my mom died of cancer, we got to watch her body waste away. 4 years later, after many strokes, my dad finally died too. I was in a marriage where I was verbally abused and I finally left after 30 years. I have found a wonderful man, my one bright spot. But the both of us are currently unemployed and have no home of our own. We'd be on the streets if it wasn't for someone taking us in. He ran out of unemployment pay long ago. Hard as it may be, I do have a choice how I will face my difficulties, so do you. I am not saying to be unrealistic and say Hey everythings cool and will turn out alright and have happy endings like in a movie.
I am talking about how though I miss mom and dad, I know I'll see them again in heaven. I had to focus on being in the here and now for my kids when I lost my parents. Life goes on, just not in the same way as before. I find myself thinking, mom would have loved this or loved that...but she's watching from heaven so she's not really missing out...I only miss having her physical presence. In my previous marriage, I had to live frugal when that husband kept losing jobs, and learned to cut down, go to foodbanks, shop 2nd hand, etc. Now with 2nd husband, I've had to learn to cut down even more, when you havent a home, all you've got to take with you is what fits in a van, thats it. Things I took comfort in, little collectibles, things with memories attached, I had to let it all go, one by one. It was hard. I cried each time I had to downsize my belongings even more. And yet, I am happy, and haven't let my circumstances 'break' me or rob me of my joy. Joy is something that can't be changed by the circumstances or happenings around us. Most of us have difficulty going through hardships because we never had joy, only happiness which is temporary and based on happenstance. I am sorry for what you are going through dear. I hope you do find some peace in the middle of your storm.
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