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Does he like me?
I really liked this guy, so I figured I had nothing to lose by telling him the truth. Here's what happened:
"I like you, and think you're cute. What do you think of me?" I whispered.
"You're awesome," he said.
"Do you like me?" I asked.
"Yeah, I like you."
But then I was confused because my friend told me that he might've only meant he liked me as a friend. So I asked again did he like-like me and he said, "I don't know". And only a few minutes after, I caught him rolling his eyes at me. The next day, I ignored him and he kept staring at me always wanted to be near me. Plus, I heard one of his guy friends say, "She's probably just playing hard to get". I decided to stop ignoring him, so I started texting him. The only reason I ever ignored him was because his answer confused me. I sent him a nice text saying, "Sorry by making things awkward between us by saying I liked you.." and he didn't reply, even though he read it....
I saw him today for the first time in two months, and I ask, "Do you like me....you did say that you did..." and he said, "Oh really? I don't remember that, I only like you as a friend! We only see each other once a week!" And now, he acts really awkward around me. I'll tell a really funny joke, and everyone will laugh, except him. Plus, he's always around me.... So strange.
To let you know, we're 14. And he's never had gf. He's the outgoing/joker type.
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It's not putting an unfair amount of pressure on a guy to say "Remember that thing you said?".
You didn't screw it up. You know how to talk to guys just fine. (Guys are simply human beings, not frightened little animals who need to be coddled and have girl's 'feelings' explained to them every single time.) You obviously were trying pretty hard to do the right thing and be honest. You told him whats what.
You two didn't understand each other for two reasons, neither of which are your fault:
ONE, You are both inexperienced talking about romantic feelings.
TWO, Neither of you knew what to do NEXT.
For whatever reason, he either didn't like you in that way, or didn't like you enough to do anything NEXT. (Or possibly, liked you, but had no idea what the NEXT thing to do about it.)
It was a bit of jerk move for him to say "I don't remember that..." but it was the move of a really inexperienced and overwhelmed young person. It takes a lot of guts and self-knowledge to be as direct as you've been, and most other people your age aren't going to know how to do that, or how to handle it when someone else does.
For now, I think you should just try to be his friend. He's told you he likes you as a friend, and you should accept and respect that as the truth. Maybe he really does like you as more than a friend. Maybe he doesn't. Maybe he's really not sure. Either way, it's clear that he is uncomfortable for a bunch of reasons that have nothing to do with you. He's got some shit to sort out, and you can't help him with that. It's some growing up that just needs to happen.
So for now, accept that the timing wasn't right, believe him when he says he wants to be friends, and just enjoy his friendship. The awkwardness will pass if you let it, and he might just come around and realize he acted like a bit of numbskull.
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In my opinion after reading this, it sounds like he's interested in you. I don't think he likes you though, not yet anyways.
It doesn't sound like he knows you well enough to have feelings for you. He expressed that you guys only see each other once a week.
I think you should become better friends with him, don't go on asking if he likes you, and just let it be until you guys become closer friends. After that, see how things go. If he still says he only sees you as a friend, you're just going to have to take that.
Plus if he did have feelings for you but told you he only likes you as a friend, then he sees you accept it and move on, maybe he'll learn that he's supposed to tell you how he feels instead of backing out.
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I think you scared the guy by asking him the same question a second time. He was rolling his eyes at you cus he just couldnt understand where you were coming from. LEts say I'm a girl in your school and you asked Do you want to go to the movies on Sat. and I said yes but another girl says, she may want to go to the movies but not go with you. If you came back minutes later and asked the same question, I might have said, Whats wrong with you?
I already answered you. Why are you asking again?
Guys get gun shy and will negate anything they said before if a girl makes them nervous and he isn't sure what her expectations are.
Guys don't know how to respond to the question: Do you like me.
Just seeing someone on a somewhat regular basis through school or work or sports, etc...isn't enough to know enough about the person to know if you really like them and have stuff in common. So in truth, a guy can't answer that question yes or no. It would be more of an I don't know. But because of his age and inexperience in such things, it didn't occur to him to say, "maybe we should find ways to spend more time hanging out together to see if we have enough in common that we could possiblyy like each other."
If I were a guy and had no contact with you for two month and one of the first things you say to me again is the same old question...do y like me? By now he must think you're pretty strange even though you aren't. You're just a normal girl. But thats why he is trying to protect himself by sayibg I like you only as a friend.
Guys are too scared that a girl will make too much of a guy paying attention to her and jump several steps ahead of where they are really at.
Forget the texting and let him see your facial expressions and body language when you next see him. You need to learn about how to talk to guys and he needs to learn to understand what girls mean when they say certain things. So if I were you, I'd approach him and say, Don't worry, I'm not going to ask that question again. I realize I have no idea how to understand guys and how to communicate with them. Would you as a friend be willing to teach me? I know I've gone at it all wrong by asking if you liked me and asking again and again. I truly have no idea and I want to learn. I hope I haven't scared you away. Will you help me?
That would take the pressure off. He's not committing to any kind of committed relationship, he's not having to admit to liking you, he simply has a project to work on, helping you get comfortable talking to guys. In the process, he will learn something about girls. In spending time chatting or in person together, you maynaturally begin to real discover you have enough in common and that an attraction has developed to go further and date. Or you just may become best friends. And both of you help each other through talking to and dating the person who is right for you.
Lastly, if he still finds time to hang out near enough that he's like an arms length away, that subconscious body language that a person likes you. So even if he denies it, they feel comfortable around you, enjoy the vibes coming off you and feel they can trust you. It isn't truly a strong like, but it's certainly an attraction to a persons looks and how they carry themselves and act in social settings.
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