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what do i do when my friend thinks im flrting with a guy that she just met and is sayin that hes her bf
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You wrote that she only "said" that he is her boyfriend. Is there any evidence that he is. Is this a widely known fact among your friends? If she simply just met him and is putting her dibs on him and saying 'He's mine, back off" when he hasn't shown any greater interest between one or the other of you and he has not asked her to go out with him, then as far as I', concerned, the guy is still fair game to any female. The only time he is off limits is when he has made a clear decision for one girl only to get to know her better.
The reason for dating is to find out find we like and dont like about a particular person. Initially someone may seem great but the two lack that spark or chemistry together. So this guy could actually choose one of you and discover in the end that he really has more in common with the other girl.
So even if lets say he really is interested in her to at least ask her to be his girl, there's no guarantee that will last long term. People get so possesive over who is their partner at the time. It can break up friendships. Hopefully it will never come to that for you. If this guy or another shows an interest in you and that upsets her to the point that she no longer wants to be your friend, its her loss. If the guy is a real great match for you , its not fair to him to dump him to keep your girlfriend. You must reallize that you can not do anything to change how she feels inside. If she has a low enough self image that she doesn't feel that she is unique enough to catch the eye of a guy who will want her for herself and no other girl can tempt him away, then she'll continue to have issues. Its a process for women to get there, to be that secure with themselves to know that if one guy breaks up, he wasn't the right one, or if he dated others behind your back, he really wasnt into you, you werent the one that lit his world. It's a learning process. All I can suggest is that you discuss things openly with your girlfriend. Find out exactly what her reasons are for stating the guy is hers. Find out what she considers was "flirting". For her, it make be just talking to him in a group setting. Get some facts from her before you worry too much.
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