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how can i get my mom to get me birth control pills?
15/f almost 16 I cant see myself waiting another year or so to lose my virginity and I don't even have a boyfriend soon on one hand I thought that would be kind of silly to take bc everyday for something that might just happen once or now and then, but then again im like paranoid of getting pregnant and I know they can help with cramps,mood,and breakouts which is good. I have asked my mom if I could and shes just like no you don't need it its not good for you. she hates prescription drugs and just thinks they are bad overall and she is really stubborn. and we don't have a lot of money so she needs to know that its necessary because in the past I said I wanted it for my horrible cramps and she said no. im very open and mature with her so I don't know if I should just lie and say im already having sex or im going to soon becasuse I don't really see any other way becasuse she doesn't understand and thinks im too young when im very mature and responsible that's why im trying to sit down and talk to her about getting me on bc. so how can I convince her to get me on it? also do not tell me that I can ask my gynecologist for pills im not doing that and im not going to planned parenthood either im broke and have no way of getting there.i don't want to go behind her back we already have trust issues
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So, what is your major problem: no trust with your mom to convince her to get pills for you, or lack of money to order them, for example, online which might be anonymous?
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Well, sounds like you're at a stale-mate.
I would have to agree with mom that for the majority of women, hormonal birth control is not good and they have many side effects that they can't live with. The only non hormonal one that there is which I used myself, is the copper IUD, its called the Paragard. You can look it up on line.
While it is more costly, having to pay a one time lump sum for it, the IUD is good for 10-12 years. When you consider the monthly cost of pills, patches, or the shots every 2-3 months, the total cost of those over a ten year period is way more expensive than the IUD.
I understand your reason for wanting to be ready just in case. But unfortunately, hormonal birth control doesnt work that way. If today is Wed. and a boyfriend says my parents will be gone all night Fri. so come over and we'll have sex...you can't take a pill at that stage and be ready and safe by Fri cus the pill needs to be taken for about a week before it has built up enough in your system to be effective, so you wont be able to go with the mood of the moment there.
So read up on the Paragard and if you decide that is what you'd like, start making calls and ask your dr. and ask Planned parenthood how much it costs. Planned parent hood may have some plans for lower cost. Or at the very least, you can try to find a way to earn some money to set aside for it and mom too until you have enough for it.
Alot of trouble for maybe only once or twice in one year that you might have sex? Once you become sexually active, you are likely to have it more than once or twice. So for starters, the only other thing is have him use condoms but if you think some pre cum got on your hands or his when you or he touched his penis first and then fingered you, then use the morning after pill if you can get it in your state at your age. Otherwise, mom would have to buy it. But it must be taken within 72 hours of having sex so you'd have to tell her right away. That might be enough incentive to make it a priority to get you on the IUD. She just may not know about it. So her objections of it being bad for health isn't going to hold up there. While they list some side effects, of all the women I know who used the IUD, they never had any of those side effects but they have to list it for the one out of thousands who might. Whatever you do, dont go for the Mirena, IUD, that used hormones in it.
I wish you the best working this out with mom.
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Since you seem to have a good relationship with your mom, I think you should just sit down & talk to her about it like you did here. Tell her you aren't having sex yet, but you want to be prepared.
You want to be responsible. Which is very mature thinking :)
If you live in a location where you could get a small part time job to help pay for them...that may be in your favor. Cost seems to be a big excuse for parents sometimes. A gentle reminder of the costs of raising a child should you get pregnant (living with her) might not hurt, only if needed.
Good luck
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