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Husband trying to break marriage because his family doesn't approve?
One of my best friend is done the court marriage before 5 months ago. but few days back his husband is traying to breke with her because his family is not allowing . so what should she have to do??
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It is an unfortunate thing when inlaws on one side or the other or from both sides interfere with the decisions of their children. They can not live their lives through their children unless the children are weak in give in to the pressure of the parents.
If two adults are in love and have married and are willing to make their committment work no matter what, then it may require cutting off relations with any interfering family.
She can not make this happen on her own. If her husband is weak and willing to allow his family to make decisions for him, then he is not yet a strong man able to stand on his own two feet and will not in the end result make a good marriage partner.
If she finds a way to convince him to resist, he'd have to be willing to move somewhere, change phone numbers and maybe even names to avoid interferance from family. For many, no matter how wrong their family is, they cannot make that kind of change to cut off family. Thats where the saying "blood is thicker than water' comes from..the blood relations have more sway over some people than the mate they have chosen.
If he was not willing to hide from family but try to remain married, their life will be nothing but hell, she'll be miserable and in the end it could still destroy the marriage. The stress could bring depression or ill health to either or both of them. It's a nasty situation. All your friend has control over is over what she decides to do, how she decides to view it and how she responds to it. If the man is already pulling away from her...no matter how much it will hurt her heart, looking back 20 yrs from now, she may be glad she let him go. However, she could also have regrets if she knew she never fought for him. But she must go in knowing that she could possibly lose the fight but she will at least have peace knowing she did everything possible. Its a hard decision but one that is hers to make
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