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This boy at work.
I just got hired at my job about three weeks ago. One of my trainers was a cute boy. He was very nice and taught me a lot, let me do things on the register that other trainers did not. We cracked jokes, got to know each other and everything. That was my first day. I'm now done with training and am able to be alone on a register. However, I did learn register faster than self checkout. My boss said he would keep me after one night to run me through everything. So, when I got assigned to self checkout and my cute trainer saw it, he said there's no time to wait and he will teach me how to do self checkout. So, we went down, he even took a late break to help me learn everything and even when he did take his break, he took it up front in case I had any questions. I am not in my third week of working there. He has no come to be more himself around me. He'll come over and help me if he sees me look confused or a customer seems a little angry. He was finished his break and was assigned to the self checkout that I was at so before he started, he got my baskets to put away, he stacked them up and started to walk over but he ran into me jokingly and said "you were in my way" and then went to put them away. But, I've noticed that he kinda has a rude sense of humor but only to me. Like, when he took over self checkout after taking my baskets back, he said "geez, log out already, nobody wants you here!" but he did chuckle a little and I told him it wouldn't hurt to be a little nicer and he said "did you happen to notice that I'm only mean to you?" Now, my boss is someone that I went to school with, he is twenty and I've had a crush on him ever since high school. So, as a joke with my friend, I call my boss "hot face number one" and my cute trainer "hot face number two." I was working self checkout tonight, my trainer walked over and said "I can't believe you think I'm number two! I'm not two, I'm number one." Then walked away. So, obviously he found out about that. I'm just asking this question to get other people's opinions on him. Do you think he is mean to me because he likes me? Do you think he said that about being number two because he really was offended that I think someone else is cuter? Or is he sarcastically mean to me and only me because he doesn't like me? Thanks!
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When I was internet dating at late forties, I found even grown men have no idea what to say to women. Some are still mean, others just bungle it up in many other ways.
The key to remember is that every person has their own personal taste in what they see. I happen to like brunette men better than blonds or redheads. So if one guy is taking the time out to make sure he is in your vicinity a lot and actually speaking to you either really sweetly or sarcastically, he is trying to get a reaction to determine if you feel any attraction in return, thus his comment of sadness at you calling him "hot face number two".
The rude sense of humor only towards you could be an instinctive thing on his part to use to check out how self assured you are. Do you crack under it and become nervous and think you're doing a terrible job or do you see it for what it is, not meant seriously at all. He is waiting for a response from you. So if you have the slightest interest, which I think you do, then respond to him and have fun with it. Next time he says some cutting remark, dramatize up your response as if delivering a line in a corny play. For example:
"geez, log out already, nobody wants you here!"
Play the part of being overcome with sobs as you rest your bowed head against him and pretend to sob, "Nobody wants me? Not again! Everywhere I go, nobody wants me. Maybe no one will ever love me! Boo hoo hoo." Then pop your head up and grin at him. If the guy was smart, he'd quickly pat your back or something, enjoying the moment to actually have some contact with you and make some verbal response, hopefully an encouraging one at that point. By playing the melodramatic with him, you show that you see thru his tactics and understand his interest in you. So you've had a crush on your boss, other than friends, has he ever taken the pains to show you that he is interested in you. Has he taken pains to be near you and interact with you, other than what is normal for work? You didn't mention anything like that from him. Attraction has to be a two way thing. So there may be no attraction on the part of your boss. But there is from the 2nd guy. If you feel some attraction in return, go for it. He will drop the crazy joking as soon as he knows you have equal interest in him. The two of you haven't yet explored true conversation together yet. Find opportunities to talk at work a little and say something like, I enjoy talking to you and would like to talk more without the distractions of work, what do you say? You are at the conversation stage of a possible relationship and have to progress through it to the point you can decide you want to go further and date or decide to drop him. Here's a list of the different stages of relating and why:
The Normal steps to a Relationship
Attraction: Whether just plain looks or a pheremone attraction. It doesn't mean that either one "Likes" the other yet so it is important to go beyond the staring at stage to conversation.
Conversation: Now you are talking and find that you like the persons sense of humor, how they think, their beliefs or way of living life...this is the teaser...either you decide you want to learn more in depth about the person or you decide you don't have enough interest from the conversation to want to learn any more. Someone not interested stops talking to the other and looks elsewhere. If both want to learn more about the other, you start dating.
Dating: Dating is not all about calendar appointments to go to a movie or out to dinner, or out dancing. It is a time to learn what you like and don't like about the opposite sex. Find out more about the person you have interest in which happens only if you start seeing each other regularly making it a conscious choice. If there are too many dislikes, start over again with someone new. Or take this to the next level. Usually a move to being a steady couple happens automatically without any conscious thought.
Steady relationship: This is meant to be a time where you have plenty of opportunity to spend in each others presence getting to see how they handle themselves 24/7 under all sorts of conditions, their good days, and bad days. Many choose to live together at this time. There isn't much that can be hidden when you live with someone, like their housekeeping habits, what their usual diet is, any mood swings, and by now there should be a good idea of what their normal sexual habits and needs are. You don't want to get matched up with someone who is the opposite libido level of yourself.
Committed relationship: Here there are vows and oaths made to each other, a professing of mutual love and devotion for each other and it goes beyond words to living it out daily in how one treats their partner. This person will be your life mate with a marriage license or without one.
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I honestly think he may like you. Boys of all ages can either be: Super sweet or kind of mean to the girls they like. He also seems to be teasing you, even if he has a rude sense of humor. On the Number One- Number Two thing, he might be offended that you think another guy is cuter and may feel threaten. I hope this helped! Good Luck :)
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