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Now he's gone I don't know what to do. (Beloved teacher moving away)
Okay, I'm a 15 year old girl who has been depressed for the past few months.
So there's this teacher who I have got on really well with over the past year. I've known for some time now that he was going to be leaving but I don't think it ever really sunk it. Until today that is, because it's been his last day.
He's been there so much for me at school and has been really helpful and supportive. It got to the point where I would go and see him every day for advice because he was literally the only person I could talk to.
Now he's gone I don't know what to do. I have no way of contacting him (his school email was deleted today) and he's moving to the other end of the country so there's no chance of seeing him at all.
I just don't know what to do because he was everything and now I have nothing.
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Stop thinking like this-that you have nothing. You have to understand that life goes on and you have to move on. It might be difficult but it's not the end of the world. Look on it from a good perspective. If he's leaving then maybe there is something greater awaiting you. I know it's hard but trust me you will only feel depressed if you make yourself feel depressed. Remember you're the one in control-try to find someone else who understands you. Things will get better with time.
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Your last sentence reveals it all, exactly what is going on with you. You say you have nothing because he was everything.
I understand that he was a teacher but there are couple relationships like this too.
In the relationship, one person has no life on their own and lives their through the other person, they need to lean on another for strength because they lack inner strength of their own.
Hon, if you don't work on discovering yourself and building your own character and becoming a strong person who does not need another person to lean on in life to feel capable of existing, then you will keep running into this scenerio over and over in life until your dying day.
It is a misconception that another person can make one complete, whether it be a parent, a child, a spouse, a teacher, a best friend, etc...
Often a person will say, I found the right guy to marry...he makes me whole.
No, no, no...that works in math, two halves make a whole but it doesnt work in relationships.
If two wholes come together in relationship, there is a synergy. Def in dictionary: synergy-the interaction of elements that when combined produce a total effect that is greater than the sum of the individual elements.
So here, one plus one equals three.
Neither person enters any type of relationship, in a deficient state, where they are lacking personally. So the relationship is balanced.
A friend of mine told me of someone she knows a woman much like yourself, but older and still a weak person leaning on others. Her husband divorced her, she went to lean on her mom who was taken from her. Mom died, then dad, then a sister. As she kept looking for someone to live her life through, they were taken away. She finally realized that God was trying to tell her something and had a Spiritual awakening I had a chance to talk to and encourage her and I am glad to say, She's working on becoming a strong individual. Discovering herself, developing her own interests and hobbies, trying to live life and experience it on her own. discover her likes and dislikes, develop her own character, her set of morals and beliefs, finding wonder in the miracles of life, etc . .. this is what I wish for you too dear. But I have a feeling you are not ready for it yet. You still want to live your life through someone else. How do I know? Because you didn't directly ask what you can do to get past this. You posted an indirect question by stating "I just don't know what to do because"
I wish you the best in your long road ahead.
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