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making new friends
21 f.
I miss my old friends. I moved to nyc a while ago and its been hard to make friends. Ive been in school and work for so long that I never really cared about having friends. Now that summer is here all I see on facebook are people out with friends or hanging out and that makes me so sad cause I cant do the same! Im not in school right now its summer break so I cant make friends there. Is there any other way I can make friends? Places? Sites? Seriously haha. I feel horrible knowing I cant just go to the mall with a girlfriend. Im not talking about a boyfriend btw haha. Just girl friends.
Thanks for any advice in advance:)
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It's hard to make new friends when you're not in school because how often do you find people to talk to or people who share the same interest?
I'd definitely find things you like to do and I'm sure there are activities to do and when you get involved with something you love, you'll make new friends who love the same things as you do.
There might even be summer classes you can take.
Then of course there is the internet, I'm not sure of any sites, but meetup is pretty good.
Volunteering can take up some time and you could probably meet some people you could get along with.
I also thought the gym would be a good place to meet people. I'd say classes would be easier, like yoga or cycling.
If you're not working, you could work a part time job for the summer and you'll get to know more people through that too.
Anyways, that's the best I could think of. Just get involved and get out there.
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Having grown up in the NYC area I know how hard it is to make friends there. New Yorkers are hard to get to know as they tend to stay to themselves and, well not get involved in other people.
Dragonflymagic had some good advice for you. I will ad to it to trey going to your church of choice and getting involved in some of the church activities. Another way to make friends is to look for activities in your local area or school for that matter when it is back in session, that interest you. These activities can be anything that interest you.
What is great about these organized activities or clubs is there is a common interest to breakdown that wall between you and someone else, male or female. You have something in common to discuss. For the sake of discussion lets say you like to cook, which is something I like to do. The group is discussing a recipe and you say something like; wouldn't that be better if you added ________. A discussion takes place an people get to know you. Once the ice is broken friendships are born as well as relationships.
Another nice thing about discussions are that someone who might be afraid to approach you, a guy, can speak openly with out fear and get to know you before he decides to ask you out. Decides equals gets up the courage.
My suggestion is you sit down with paper and pen to make a list of all the activities you enjoy. Whatever they may be; cooking, biking, hiking, boating, swimming, bird watching whatever you enjoy doing make that list. Then number them in order of importance to you. Once you have your list take the top 5 and look for activities or clubs that are of these interest and check them out. If you like them join them.
I have made this same recommendation to others and they have written back to thank me as it works. Try this as I'm sure it will work for you.
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Check on line for Meetup.com for your zipcode area. You can find people who gather together for similar likes. Anything from playing a favorite board game, to energy healing, to cat lovers, etc... Its a good way to meet people. Worked for my daughter when all her friends moved away, went to college or married.
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