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i don't know if he is my boyfriend or not
So hey guys, I'm gonna try to make this as short as possible.. So i was a dancer for a sweet 16, the 16 was on Saturday, we went in the limo and everything, and so my dancing partner and i acted like we were boyfriend & girlfriend... The whole day.. Anyways, the sweet 16 girls aunt uploaded a picture of us with his arm around me, and another one with us holding hands, and another one with me sitting on his lap with his arm around jr and us holding hands, well he doesn't have a Facebook, but his mom and grandma do. His mom commented 'that girl has a sweet and beautiful mother in law' on another one she commented 'next time you two should sit down with me and have a talk, it's my first time being a mom in law' his grandma commented 'am i gonna be a great grandma?' And his mom calls me her 'daughter in law' on another pic she commented 'i got the good news, and it's been confirmed that they're together!' .... does this mean he told his mom were going out ? Does she like me? Is he my boyfriend? If we are together, does it mean I'm his first girlfriend? Please answer! Thanks in advanced :)
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Most of the time nowadays the guy will ask the girl to be their girlfriend.
In my opinion, you guys aren't officially together like boyfriend or girlfriend until he makes this clear.
His mom and grandma are probably just being silly but they probably know he likes you or something. Or they might have assumed you guys are dating because of the pictures holding hands, ect.
But he's not your boyfriend, you should probably ask him why his mom and grandma is saying this and see what he says. Then hopefully he'll make it clear to you about how he feels and if he wants to be your boyfriend.
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I am totally lost as to whats going on. A sweet 16 birthday celebration and being dance partners does not equate to being married or engaged to be married in any culture that I know of. What is his families cultural background? Some countries promise their children in marriage to someone when they are born. Maybe it's the way they think due to their cultural heritage. I dont have the info so I dont know.
For his family and relatives to be throwing 16 yrs old together in their minds and assuming they are now in laws sounds a bit wacky to me.
You are not "together" with anyone accidently. There is no accident to two people being a dating couple. The two need to have mutual interest in each other and be attracted to each other and have a conversation with each other with one asking the other if they'd like to begin dating each other.
At 16, a person has many years ahead to date several different people to determine what they do and dont like in a partner. You will refine your list over time before you decide to marry or settle into a long term relationship.
I personally don't like the idea of parents and relatives placing such pressure on young people and putting these ideas of marriage into their minds. Do not trust anything you did not get from the horses mouth, meaning trust only what comes from the boys own mouth. This 16 yr old boy has to say something to you about having interest in you and wanting to date you, not mention it to family and ask them to find a way to get you two together. Thats a very bad sign. It would mean not only does he not have the guts to ask you, he's probably a mama's boy and will do whatever Mama and family says. So dating or marrying someone like that means you will have to deal with medddling relatives who are making your life miserable.
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