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I don't want to lead him on

Question Posted Friday June 21 2013, 1:05 pm

Me and this guy have been talking for a few weeks now and I finally agreed to hangout with him last night, so we went out to the movies together and then watched Netflix at my house for about an hour; hes pretty shy so he didn't put his arm around me until after awhile and then I noticed his hand kept inching towards mine, so I just grabbed his hand and held it cuz I'm assuming he was too shy to do so. He was like rubbing my arm and my hand that he was holding and resting his head on mine. It was cute and all, but considering it was our first time hanging out I don't want him to get obsessed or anything...his heart was beating really hard when I hugged him goodbye and he kinda reached for my hand as he walked away. Either way he's leaving for the army in 2 weeks so there's nothing him or I can do but I don't want to hurt him and I wanted to make sure I hadn't done that already.

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lauragracey1 answered Saturday June 22 2013, 10:27 pm:
If you like him then show it,otherwise just dont take his hand or anything because if you take his hand then say that you dont like him thats just mean, especily considering that hes leaving in two weeks. Best of luck.

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Dragonflymagic answered Friday June 21 2013, 6:55 pm:
Watching movies and watching TV on a date doesnt allow for much interacting and building of a friendship. So other than your grabbing his hand, there is nothing there to indicate an established relationship. You and I have no idea what may be going on in his mind.. like if he thinks you have interest. As shy as he is, he might stretch reality in his mind to think there is something where there isn't.
I think you have a soft hearted, nurturing side to you. This may attract the shy, low self image type of man, or those who want to be mothered and remain children in an adult body. No real woman is going to enjoy any of those types of guys. Think hard about this, is what i mentioned what you were really doing, or are you actually attracted to him and want a relationship? A long distance relationship is very hard on well established relationships and more so for ones who barely got off the ground. If he never asks if you are interested, you don't need to say anything. But if it's weighing on your mind, you might want to call and talk to him about that night. You were just being friendly but have no romantic feelings if that is the case. Good Luck

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