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My sister and I always fight
Hello,
My sister is 36 and I am 28. When we were younger we did't have the best relationship but it was fine. She is an alcoholic, everyone has tried to help her but does not want to seek help.
It was my nephew's communion last weekend and I found she drank a little too much 2 bottles of wine, myself and everyone else did not say anything because she would get angry, and say its her house she can do what she wants. The next day I decided to email her about my concern and said I no longer want to be a part of her drinking. Our whole family is concerned, have apoken to her and she gives empty promises and lies about it. She always argues with everyone and she's always right, and their wrong. She doesn't see what she does to people, or admit to anything, and if she does which is rare, she says sorry, but how many times can you say sorry, after a while it gets old. I have never gotten an apology.
She went off and blew up at me, told me to mind my own business, I don't know what I'm talking about, I'm rude and so on, she didn't say nice things to me, lets put it that way. This is not the first time we have argued, I can name many things she has done to hurt me and I have forgiven her, their have been times where we do not talk to months. Everytime their is an arguement I always make an atempt to reconcile, as she NEVER has.
I am getting married next March, and I have just about given up with my sister and don't want to be a part of her life until she cleans up her act. I feel that what is the point of inviting her to my wedding.
If anyone has any advice how to go about this, or any advice I am very happy to here the:)
Thank you,
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I can't advise you on whether or not to invite your sister to your wedding. This is something you and your future husband must decide as it is your day and you have a right to make it a happy occasion for you and your families.
What I will suggest is this. Your sister is a problem drinker, most likely an alcoholic. As with most alcoholics you can not make her change or see the fact that she has a problem. You have to wait until she asks for help. Unfortunately this usually comes when the alcoholic hits bottom; which is different for every one.
What you can do in the mean time is find an Al-Anon meeting near you to join. Al-Anon is for friends and families of problem drinkers and other substance abusers. Through group meetings you learn how others deal and have dealt with problems you may be dealing with.
By attending meeting near you, you may just find the answer you are looking for as to whether or not to invite your sister to your wedding. I realize how hard a decision this is for you. Hopefully by speaking with others who have faced this same decision and finding out how they have dealt with it; you will be able to make your decision.
Below is the URL for the Al-Anon meeting locator page.
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I hope this helps. Congratulations on your up coming wedding. Best of luck to the both of you. My wife and I will have been married 42 years next month.
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