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Should I go out with him?
I'm a female! There's this one guy who I use to have in one of my classes, we never talked too much. One day in my summer break he messages me on Facebook and we start talking and we started gettif flirty then he said he liked me. We kept talking for a while and one day my friend told me he has been talking to other girls the entire time. I updated a status about him and he got mad and it created lots of drama. I heard he was saying rude things about me and he tried talking again and be asked me out.. I wanna say yes cause I like him but iDont know of he's playing me again /:
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What kind of status update was it? Was it a relationship status or a mean status about him?
So he was talking to other girls, but you guys aren't dating right? So he wasn't exactly in the wrong since you guys aren't exclusively seeing each other.
The status update was probably a bad idea because it caused unnecessary drama. He shouldn't have been saying rude things about you, if that was even true because you only heard about it and didn't hear any of this from him (Same with the talking to other girls).
If you guys were dating and he was talking to other girls, then it would be a problem. Anyways, if you don't think you can trust him, don't be with him. Relationships don't work if there is no trust.
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YOu need to learn to stop listening to others. Things get distorted unintentionally as messages are passed via the grapevine. But that does not rule out that someone who may be jealous of the attention he is paying you is making up stories to try and ruin it for you if you choose to believe them without checking out the facts.
What facts do you have so far? Only what this guy has said to your face or directly to you on FB, and that is: I like you. and I want to ask you out.
I do not know what status you put something like "in a relationship with" and refered to him when all you have done is mostly chat on line, that is not a relationship in many peoples eyes, and apparently in his too. Whether your friends told you to change status on FB and you followed their idea or you came up with it on your own, that was all your own mess you created. Next time don't make assumptions.
When you say he's been talking to other girls, are you talking strictly FB? That is not playing the field. One can talk to many friends of the opposite sex on line and that does not constitute a problem. If he is flirting with and talking romantic and asking out all these girls in person face to face and on FB, then there is a problem. But unless you have seen him do this or seen what he has supposedly written others, you have no proof. To accuse him when you are wrong would kill any chance you had with him. The words of others, friends or not...is not proof. Remember that saying "Innocent until proven guilty." If he is being two faced and trying to hide something from you...you will eventually see it yourself and when you know it for sure, then you can stop dating. But don't let this concern keep you from dating someone who might be a perfectly wonderful guy. I know from experience, that people who are presenting a false facade, pretending to be someone they are not, can not do so forever. It takes too much energy to keep up the lies and falsehood so eventually when they think they have you hooked in the relationship, their guard comes down and they start making obvious mistakes.
End result from all I just explained to you, yes, go out with him. But I took the time to explain in detail so you wouldnt have any doubts and worries to spoil things for you
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