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How should a junior girl ask a semi-shy guy out? Should she even ask him?
. . . So I'm into this guy in my foreign language class, and now that the school year's ending, I want to ask him out---or at least suggest it (without actually SUGGESTING it) so that he asks me. We're both juniors in high school, btw!
Here's a little background information:
. . . In our class participation is highly encouraged to practice speaking Spanish, and the two students who participate the most in class are him and I. We used to sit at opposite ends of the class---our teacher purposely did that because we talk too much---and whenever there'd be something funny or fascinating happening during class, I noticed he would always look at me/we would make eye contact, as if we were laughing with each other. I didn't think too much of it then.
. . . Last week we were given the option to choose our seats for the rest of the school year since there's only a few weeks left. The guy chose the seat right next to mine, and now we can talk to each other more easily. For the last week and a half we've been watching a lot of episodes from a spanish soap opera in class, and every time something funny happens he would laugh and make eye contact with me, holding it for a few seconds.
. . . Now, I don't know if I'm reading too much into it, but I think he may be interested in me. I feel like the way he acts in class sort of gives it away that he likes me, but I also don't want to be wrong, you know? Outside of class he's never really made an effort to speak to me, unless we were both already somewhere (like if we see each other on campus or are at a school event). But even at those times, it's just small talk.
. . . We're both into the same things. We both like a lot of the same bands, and we have the same favorite shows/movies. We have the same kind of personality too. We get each other's sense of humor, which a lot of other people don't. He's in a band and I'm a musician, so we both appreciate good music. We also dress pretty similar (like guy/girl versions of each other). But we're not too much the same that it would start to get boring.... So now all I'm thinking is, like, "match-made-in-heaven", you know? LOL jk. I think we'd just be really good together.
. . . Anyways, he has an outgoing personality (so do I), but when it comes to girls I know he's more on the shy side (as am I when it comes to boys). Also, I have been told by multiple people that he may be intimidated by me and afraid of asking me out because---and I don't mean to be conceited---I am out of his league. They say that I'm much more attractive than him, so he probably assumes I'm just not interested.
. . . I really don't know what to do because I would really like to hangout with him sometime alone so that we could have an actual conversation, but I don't know how to propose the idea. I just don't know how to go about it... What would be the right time, the right place? What would I suggest we do on this "date" or "hang" or whatever..
. . . Does he even like me?
. . . Your advice and personal experience would be much appreciated! Thanks so much.
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Have you tried talking to him outside of class? The easiest thing to do is to message him on Facebook (if you both have Facebook accounts) and ask him a question about class. It could be anything homework or material related, doesn't really matter. Then, mention something that you both enjoy, like some kind of inside joke that you may have. Link him to a show he might like, or a song he might be into, etc. It's an easy transition from small-talk to personal conversation.
If he's not on Facebook or you don't want to do that, you could always just ask him what he's doing over the summer, and mention that you guys should hang out. Even if he doesn't want to, he wouldn't flat-out say no. As summer approaches, give him your number and ask him to text you, or ask for his so you guys can make plans :)
Good luck!
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Whether he realizes yet that he likes you, one thing is for certain,
You both enjoy experiences more because the other is there to experience it with. When there is something funny or the soap opera, he is looking to see if you enjoy it as much as him. I have a marriage where life is more special because the mate is there in it, even doing dishes together or grocery shopping is more fun. Though we can do such things alone, if given a choice, we prefer to be together experiencing every little nitty gritty bit of life together. That is a very special thing. I understand about guys feeling a gal is out of their league. Even tho hubby made the first move, he thought I would reject him. So hon, you will need to say something and base it on what you do know, you enjoy his company and being near him, hearing him laugh, hearing what his comments in class are, the eye contact and smiles. So if I were you, I'd say something like: It's gonna be a long summer and I know I can keep busy and have fun, but I think it would be lots more fun to have you sharing my summer with me. It doesn't have to be dates likes going out to dinner or a movie but just hanging out together. I enjoy you alot in spanish class and know I'd miss that during summer, so would you be okay with hanging out together for whatever, even if its something like washing a car together or helping mom weed her garden. Once you start hanging out and the conversation flows, you will come up with more formal things to do like a real date. Enjoy a wonderful summer with your guy. I am positive he will say yes...even if he doesn't quite believe you at first.
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Even if he doesn't like you. You should tell him how you feel or simply just hangout with him as friends you know the best relationships are great when starting off as friends perhaps maybe he will ask you out later after. Just one step at a time
Hope I helped (:
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