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I feel so guilty about my friend's seizure!
Hey. I'm feeling really bad about what happened in athletics today. My friend and I were angry at the coach because she never picks us to play or says something like "Too bad deal with it" when one of us is sick or injured. My friend's name is Leah. She is known to have seizures. I just happened to have a strobe light on my ipod. She told me to let her see is so the coach would start respecting us. I told her no that it was a bad idea, but she grabbed it out of my pocket and turned it on. She was having a silent seizure and I thought she was faking it because she had in the past. I was laughing at her, but after a few minutes, I noticed it was real. I panicked and told the coach then ran out of the building due to fear and embarrasment. Now the other girls say mean things about me and I got kicked off the team.
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I would think that your friend with her condition already knew to stay away from your strobe light. I was at a party where a lady made an announcement, "If you want to take pictures, please let me know so I can leave the room first because a camera flash is enough to put me into seizures every time."
So this is not your fault. Your classmates seing you run out of the building at that time made assumptions based on what they saw and just guessed that you did something but likely have no clue what it was. And in any case, you did not DO something. Your friend Leah did. Hopefully this will be a good experience from her to learn by. You might mention the camera flash to her too.
Her faking seizures is like the story of the Kid who cried Wolf. Its not your fault for not taking her seriously because of her goofing around about a very serious subject. She set up this situation herself by her faking in the past. Hopefully your friend will also learn from it. If she ever tries to fake it again, I would remind her that it is not a nice thing to do to someone else and could jeorpardize her own life.
Your coach jumped to conclusions too by kicking you off the team. Have your parents talk to him/her.
Do your parents know anything about Leah? Do you talk about her to them? My oldest daughter gave me a run down every once in a while of how things were going with her friends and occasionally I could see a problematic pattern starting and could point it out and offer solutions. If your parents knew of her faking seizures, I would think they'd have taken that seriously and thought to point out that perhaps she shouldnt be doing that. If I was your mom and I knew Leahs, moom, i'd have been on the phone as one mom to another to let her know what her kid was doing...not to get her in trouble. It's kids just being silly and playing around but because of our having more life experience as adults, sometimes we can see a potential problem coming before it hits.
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None of this is your fault and you must not think like that. You can't predict or control what happens with your friend's illness. It's the coach's problem, fear and ignorance that led to your termination. Have your parents contact school admin on that one.
Your friend obviously doesn't know the severity of her illness and not to joke about it or fake seizures because nobody will help as was the case here. You ran out of the room because you are not trained to know what to do if this happened.
I'm not going to bash your friend but what she did was pretty darn sick to pretend to have seizures and then wind up having a real one and nobody at first saw the difference.
She needs a wake-up call (this one) to start treating this illness more seriously and not do this.
Also her behavior has a lot to do with this and her health. If she knew full well NOT to look at a strobe light of any kind and she did... Also, if she's doing this for "respect" and to get out of class if I read your question correctly that's really wrong. I doubt few people would if they knew about her faking this before a real one. At any rate you are blameless and she needs to grow up a bit and see it's nothing to fake or joke about.
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