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How do you communicate your fetishes (things you like in bed) to your partner?
20/f
I know that if someone is in a sexual relationship, they should be able to communicate about what they like. However, I've been thinking of something recently and I'm not sure how to initiate it. I watch porn pretty frequently and one day I came across a woman giving a rimjob to a man and at first I was grossed out but now I find myself searching for it and getting off at it. It turns me on so much. But I don't know if I could actually do it because I mean, that's someone's ass.. it could be really gross. But if my guy's clean, I know I would love it. How do I initiate this? I want to make sure he's clean before I do it but I also want to surprise him.. and would he probably like it?
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With bum stuff, you don't want to surprise him. This is something you should discuss ahead of time to make sure it's within his comfort zone. A lot of guys are squicked out by the idea of anal contact, so you could make him bolt if you just jump down there with no warning.
Shower immediately ahead of time, to make sure he's squeaky clean. If you really want to be safe, use a dental dam (or a latex glove cut open). That way you're not actually having any mouth-to-anus contact. The reason why I suggest this is because you can get some pretty nasty bugs from having your mouth down there, even if it is freshly soaped.
It's not really gross, and if he's into it, it's a lot of fun. So go crazy :)
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Some people both females and males are really squeamish about anyone nosing around their anus. Others have no problems at all. Just in case he's the kind who would say NO, I wouldn't plan on trying to surprise him by just going there...he might resent it that you didn't communicate anything first. Trying something something between a couple must be talked about and planned to at least try it first.
It may be that you were aroused by it simply because it seems so naughty and gross but in real life, you are right, you may not like it.
If you both decide to try it, take a shower together before hand, soaping each other up. Remember, no soap for the female parts, just water is sufficient. Douches and soap cause problems for women. But thats another story.
If the male ass in sex has caught your attention, and he is open to it, massaging his prostrate, which is the Male G-spot, will increase the strength of his orgasm. It is a couple inches inside his anus on the wall facing his cock. It will feel about the size of a walnut, kinda hard and firm like your cervix. If you use disposable gloves or just finger gloves from the pharmacy for this, it is very enjoyable for the man who is brave enough to try. If he says no to anything. Let him know if he ever changes his mind to let you know and ask him to check around on line or maybe with friends he's that close to talking about anything and have him find out what others have to say about it.
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