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my mom has been physically and meantally abusing me
I mean it's gotten so bad that I am scared to come fear of getting hit in the head numerous times with her fists and cussed out I mean I try to stay away from the house the only time I am at home is to make sure my mom gets her meds and for me to cook meals and since I barely know how to cook it's mostly stuff that you can cook quickly and pop in the microwave or when my mom is having one of her good days which is very we might get to go out to eat . I am usually always at church and I bring my cell phone with me just in case of an emergency and when I am gone I get my stepdad to drop by and check in on her and the kids I am just scared to go home I wish that our life could be back to normal a happy hugging family I mean my mom use to hug me all the time we were really close not anymore . That's terrible in a 2 years time
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I don't understand where the stepdad is in all this. Maybe they're divorced or maybe his job keeps him away alot. Did he leave the moment she became ill. If so, there must be some other family you can turn to for help, does she have sisters or brothers? I can't imagine people leaving you to fend for yourself in this. Or maybe you haven't reached out asking for help yet.
You mentioned church. Have you told your pastor everything?
Or lets forget about how she treats you or the little ones and just think about her. Doesn't she deserved to live out her end days even though so ill, in peace? Would you say she is in peace? NO...that's not. She needs professionals to be caring for her, not little babies, and a young person who hides at church and a husband/ex husband who isn't there 24/7. I get it...its your Mom. But Mom is never going to be herself unless God reaches down and does a miracle. The Mom you love is only in your memories now. The person before you needs help and is in no shape to be able to ask for it herself.
Here's another way to look at it. Lets say she dies in the next couple days. OH...you can go home now and not worry about being beat up...so are you going to feel any better? No, you trade strong emotions...instead of being in fear for yourself, now instead of fear it's remorse that haunts you..wondering if you could have done more. Just check out every possibility now so that when the time comes...you can be at peace knowing you did everything possible for her, the children and yourself. And YES it is a lot to ask of someone your age to carry the burdon of having to find help for your situation at home. l But that's all I am advising you to do...just reach out and tell anyone and everyone who is local there...start with your Pastor. He should be able to research and find agencies to help.
I read an inspiring story some 15 years ago of a very young teen, 13,14, or so whose mom was a drug addict and there was no dad. Just her and mom. Mom was losing her health and in danger of dyinng. The girl took care of herself and her mom doing everything in the household. There wasn't any food so she visited foodbanks. Mom eventually was so fried she could no longer hold a job and then she went over the deep end, oblivious to the world around her, the house could have been on fire and she wouldnt have known. The girl asked school counselors who put her in touch with the right agencies to help. The article showed a happy mom standing next to her. Mom had gone thru treatment and was drug free and credited her then 15 yr old with saving her life, otherwise she would've overdosed and died. If a 13 yr old can reach out for help, so can you. That's all you need to do.
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