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Giving my boyfriend sexual pleasures
Okay so my boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months and I'm 15 and he is 17 but we're really close with each other. When we hangout we make out and he'll feel me up and finger me but I never do anything other than kissing. This is both of our most serious relationships we've had. I feel like I should do something for him like a hand job but I'm not exactly sure how to. We've talked about having sex before, neither of us have done it, but we both want to. He just thinks we should do littler things first to make it less awkward and he has done just about everything when I've done nothing and he says "you can do stuff too" and I say "I know" and I feel awful because its new to me and idk what I'm doing. Please don't judge me anyone here! I would just like a step by step process of how to give a hand job, blow job, or any way to pleasure him that would be great! If anyone could give me some advice that would be greatly appreciated! :) thank you! Btw advice from woman and men would be great!!
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Say, "I want to give you a hand job, but I don't know how. Would you teach me?" Have something like a clean sock or handkerchief read to catch his goo.
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Dear Giving my boyfriend sexual pleasures,
First, thank you for asking a great question and using proper English, punctuation and spelling. Your question tells me that you are mature for your age; I always appreciate that.
My advice to you is search you tube for "how to" videos.
I found several good ones explaining BJs.
Visualization may be the way to go, rather than having someone explain it in text.
Good Luck!!
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Firstly, the 'little things first' policy is a very creditable and responsible line to take, so full marks to your boyfriend for realising this! So, the urge to please him is natural and instinctive...but there's the tricky question of technique, right? Great news is, you don't have to be highly skilled and polished in the 'art' to give your boyfriend a very enjoyable handjob. We're a pushover in fact, as long as it's a girl we're keen on! Simply, if he's been quite intimate pleasuring you, he'll already have an erection. You hold his penis, reasonably firm grip (but not too tightly!) and move your hand back and forth up and down the shaft. Start slowly, and begin to increase the speed in stages as he gets more excited. Until he reaches his climax, and at this point you'll feel his manhood sort of throb, or twitch and jump in a series of spasms. Each spasm will make him 'spurt out' some semen. Stop 'stroking' when it begins and just keep holding him firmly until he's finished. That's about it. Might feel a bit awkward at first, but if you try to overcome it and keep a dialogue of sorts going with him it will help no end. You can ask 'Is that OK?' or 'Is that feeling good for you?' etc. There's usually a good sized spoon full of semen all together, and he'll probably spurt quite strongly at his age. It doesn't smell nasty, and is completely harmless if it splashes you a little, and won't ruin clothing. And he'll almost certainly 'finish off' soon after you begin. Especially at first. There's nothing that can actually 'go wrong' and no risk. He'll LOVE it, and you should find it rather pleasing and satisfying that you've 'made him come'. There's a lot of variations on how a girl gives her partner oral sex, so this really is a matter of trying it out as/if and when you fancy it. Cover your front teeth with your lips, and although it's called a 'blow job' the one thing you must never do is close your mouth around him and BLOW! This can do a bloke proper physical damage, your lungs can stump-up a LOT of pressure mate Tongue and lips, a gently suck, but NOT a blow, ever! Up to you if you let him finish off inside your mouth, or outside. Likewise if you prefer to empty your mouth into a tissue or swallow. It's harmless in the mouth, or if swallowed, but YOUR choice if you see what I mean. Now this all sounds a bit cold and clinical written down, I know. But if it's something you want to do and feel comfortable about trying, it'll all feel much more natural and loving and sexy when you actually 'get started' as you might say. I reckon that's a fairly full description to start with, and it gives you a bit more confidence? As for judging, well...you're a couple. Your first 'proper boyfriend' and you're the first girl he's wanted to do it with. The urge and desire are there. You're not still little kids. Nobody's pressuring the other. He's got a great 'lets take our time' attitude with you, which can be a bit scarce in 17 year old guys. And he's taken the time to please you, WITHOUT instantly demanding anything in return. I reckon you're on a winner with him! As far as experience, he'd get a REAL shock if you said 'Of course I'll give you a handjob, I've done it LOADS of times with other guys and they loved it...' Wouldn't he just??? So...relax and ENJOY!!
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Ok so if you are truly ready for this here is some advice- Im not here to judge ;)
tbh I think you should just start with a hand job because a blow job is a step further and you need to start slow so youa re comfortable with him and his body.
When he is kissing you, provided you are alone, slide ur hand down his chest all the way down to the top of his pants. make sure you are comfortable- its ok to go slow.
tuck ur hand into his pants and just feel him- have fun exploring him.
if his pants have a zip undo it and gently (emphasis on gently because this is a very sensitive area for a guy) pull his dick out.
Wral you hand around the base of it-not too tight- and start pulling and pushing it through your hand and caress it.
Changing the pace/speed and the tightness of your grip will also make it more pleasurable.
hope this gives you a bit of an idea as to what to do- if you have any other questions feel free to message me
goodluck- have fun x
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Well firstly, I assume you know what you're getting into if you're talking about this so freely. You do realize you're fifteen? You have your whole life in front of you. I think you should lay off the sex-related stuff, and focus on things that matter. Have you ever given thought to the possibility of him breaking up with you and spreading everything you've done? Anyways, I hope you find what you're looking for. Good luck!
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