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I'm confused about my love life!
21/female
Okay so me and my bf broke up 2 months ago. We went about a month and a half with out speaking to each other. He texted me first just to check how I was doing and then recently he asked me to go to a concert with him. then he asked me to spend easter with him and his family. And then I spent his birthday with him and his family again. I don't know what to make of the situation. Im getting mixed signals and I don't know why he keeps inviting me around him and his family.
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You need to ask yourself what you want before you ask what he wants. Is it friendship or more? Only the two of you can decide. I used to go around to my ex's a lot when we broke up as I was still on good terms with him and his family. This went on for a couple of years but then we both went our separate ways and were seeing other people.
It is all to do with intent and you have to make sure that if it is what you want, you make sure you are giving him the message that you want nothing more than friendship.
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you know love is depand on devotion and believe.if you and he belive each other than go for again.but i think this is not a love ,it is a sexual attraction.he do not love you he want you sex.so do not go again .other things you can go practicaly make physical relationship with him ,am sure he will leave you after sometimes again .the other name of love is devotion with each other ,love is a spritual
power ,love do not beg for sex
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It honestly sounds like he wants you again. He probably feels bad about the break up. One the other hand it might be because his family wants you two back together, or they just think the world of you. I understand why your getting mixed symbols, just think about those two situations.
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There are two possible answers to your question. The most obvious one to me is: His family very much likes you and had expected the two of you would eventually marry. For whatever reasons he has he has not summoned up the courage to tell them you and he have split up. This only answers the question of family gatherings. What throws a ringer into this is asking you to go to the concert which was not I'm assuming a family event.
The second answer is: He still has feelings for you. By asking you to the concert he took you someplace where there were a great many people around and questions about your relationship would be hard to bring up. The same is true with inviting you to his family gatherings. When around his family I'm sure both you and he would do your best to keep this family out of whatever problems there may be between you.
Now assuming he was the one who broke off the relationship both of my answers give him the opportunity to reassess his reasons for breaking up with you. That maybe in the heat of anger he feels he did something stupid and now is looking for an opportunity to reestablish what you both once had.
Fact of the matter is one of you is going to have to be the bigger party her and ask the other what is going on. Our we getting back together or is he just looking for a booty call; again an assumption on my part.
The biggest part of any relationship be it platonic or sexual; both partners have to communicate their needs to each other. what do they want from this relationship and where do they see it going.
As advisers we can only make a guess at what your asking since we do not know either of you. So my advice is shit him down and ask him what is going on. Does he want to get back together or is he using you to in some manner placate his family. At the moment this is the best advise I can offer.
After you two talk you may wish to write back and discuss his answer with us.
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