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does he love his car more than me:(
Hey guys, so im gonna be 16 next month and my boyfriend is 17, anyway, we have been dating for 8 months now and today he just texted me telling me that his grandma bought him a new car its a really nice one too and he is so excited about it. Ok so im happy for him but to be honest i dont think he needs one, he doesnt even have his license yet! And he doesnt really go many places besides hangng out with me. The thing is, i just dont want him to start getting a big head about it and start being spoiled cuz he seems to be getting alot of things he wants right now:(see, ny ex boufriend when he got a new truck, thats ALL he talked about and cared about it was so annoying and frusterating that i finally dumped him because he was starting to act like a jerk. I dont want the same thing to happen now with my current boyfriend:( what should i do/sat without sounding like an attention-hog?
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First guys and cars go together like Ham & Cheese or bacon & Eggs. Its a guy thing that girls somehow just can't understand. To be jealous over a guys feelings for his car is not only being somewhat self centered on your part. You're getting jealous over something that cannot return his affection the way you can.
A boys love for his car or truck, especially his first one is way different than his love or feelings for someone especially his girl. You have nothing to be jealous over and will be far better off if you help him enjoy his new toy then be repulsed by it.
In this way the attention you feel he is taking away from you isn't really being taken away from you as you are sharing and helping him enjoy his car. Something he will like much more than say you complaining he is spending to much time away from you and with his car instead.
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You are seriously overreacting.
He just got an awesome gift, and instead of being happy for him (and maybe encouraging him to get his licence so he can really enjoy it) you worry that he won't pay enough attention to you.
Maybe your ex was a jerk, but assuming your current boyfriend is going to make the same mistake is an overreaction, and its disrespectful. Your boyfriend deserves the benefit of the doubt.
The only thing you should maybe do, is tell your boyfriend straight up how rude your ex was about his truck, and how much it hurt you. Putting it out there and awknowledging it might help you both. It will help him be understanding, and perhaps more likely to forgive if you behave badly, and know its not about him, and it might help you put your anger and anxiety where it belongs- in the past.
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Until he starts ignoring you and not spending time with you anymore, don't worry about this.
You can't ever compare your current relationships to your old ones. The is the worst thing to do and it will end up ruining your relationship.
When boys get a new car, they will be happy and they will be very excited. Not all guys will ignore their girlfriend though.
Right now, you are over reacting because you are comparing him to your ex. Don't do that.
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You are over reacting. If you keep being needy you will eventually kill your relationship.
Any Guy who gets a new car is going to be excited. It's not you, It's a guy thing. Be happy for him
Unless he starts not wanting to spend time with you and would rather sit in his car 24.7 then stop worrying so much.
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