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Am i being a good girlfriend?
I'm this really great long distant relationship. its almost like we're not even apart.
But i still have feelings for my ex. Iv had them for three years now and i cant seem to quit get over him. i told him the truth and he said it was alright that i still had feelings for him. that he just wants be to be happy. but i still cant help having feelings for my ex. i honestly dont know what to do.
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Lets not get crazy here. It's absolutely normal and natural to have feelings for an ex. Once you realize that, you'll be fine. Just because you have feelings for a person that you were once close to doesn't mean that it diminishes the relationship that you're in now in any way. These feelings are okay to have. They don't mean anything and they will fade with more time. It's only an issue if you're considering actually acting on the feelings. You were close with your ex for a reason and I'm sure you had a lot of great times together. You can't just cut that out of your life without thinking about it every so often. Just know that the feelings mean nothing and that they're completely normal. Don't go and do something silly like break up with your current boyfriend just because feelings remain for a person that you used to be close with. Good luck!
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Well you can't be with him and still have feelings for your ex.
So you need to choose. That's all there is to it. If you want to be with your current boyfriend, you need to try to get over him. You have a great guy, you need to realize why you and your ex broke up.
You need to realize there is a reason. You also need to believe that you will get over him. If you don't believe it, then you won't.
Make sure everything that reminds you of your ex is gone. Pictures, gifts, and his number and facebook.
Start doing your own thing. You don't have to spend all your time talking to your current boyfriend and you don't want that extra time thinking about your ex, I mean it's been years and it is time to move on.
Maybe try learning new things.
You might want to get rid of friends that are friends with him. I'm not saying completely dump them but don't hang around them that much. You need to really put effort into this if you want your boyfriend.
Talk to your family. They are there for you and they can help you.
Anyways, I understand it's hard to get over exes. Even if it's been 3 years, I understand and I've been there.
If you really believe that you want your ex, then don't stay with your boyfriend. It's not fair to do this to him.
It's not that you're being a bad girlfriend, you just need to get a hold of your feelings and figure out what's best.
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You need to ask yourself who you love most and if its worth losing your boyfriend you have now. Its not fair for your boyfriend to love you and only you, but for you to have feelings for an old ex. My opinion though would be to just forget about your ex and enjoy the happy relationship you have now. But if you do have lots of feelings for your ex and you believe there's a big connection there then that's up to you.
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