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i need advice: 19 years old and baby with 27 year old man who also has a girlfriend...
i am a 19 year old girl with a 9 month old baby.....his dad is 27 and i really love him that might seems a little old but to me age doesn't matter....anyways i live with him and his mom...but since i had the baby he doesn't want to have sex as much as he used to do ......but when we do he tells me how good it was n he cant stop having sex with me.....he has a girlfriend that he sometimes spends the night with...but whenever he visits his mom's house she be calling him every minute...i think she don't want him to be around me r his child n i talk to him about it but he said that shes just in his life for a reason and a season....again hes a good dad and hes very loving and charming.....but i'm fastrated with the fact that she doesn't want him to see me his child r his mom......so can someone give me advice...cause i really think he loves n cares for me as i do....but he can be a hard ass sometimes lol.........
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This guy isn't your boyfriend. He isn't 'with you'. He's with some other girl (but occasionally has sex with you).
He doesn't love and care for you. I'm sorry, but someone who behaves this way simply does not love you or want to be with you.
He might feel he can't stop having sex with you, but you can absolutely stop having sex with him. And you should, because he's a two-timing piece of shit.
Of course his girlfriend is nervous when he visits his mother and you. He's still SLEEPING with you, even though he calls her his girlfriend.
Stop getting frustrated with HER. She's not doing anything wrong (except not dumping his ass). If he is neglecting his child or his mother - that's his shit, not hers.
But you need to look for love and support from someplace else. Be glad he is a good father, but accept that is lousy partner and boyfriend. Your relationship with him should not be romantic or sexual. You are only co-parents.
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Just like every other kid in the world...You let them get away with something and they will just keep right on doing it.
I know you are only 19. I had my first child when I was just 18 so I have been in that situation. It is time for YOU to grow up.
You are going to have to take control of your own life. If at all possible get out of this mans mothers house. I am sure she means well, but you need your own life.
Next, you need to tell this man that he is going to be his baby's father and your partner or he isn't. You are NOT going to put up with him having a girlfriend. Good grief girl have some respect for yourself. You don't deserve to be treated like this. Don't let him run off & stay with some other woman while you stay home & care for his child alone. If he doesn't want to stay with you, then he needs to give you enough money that you can go stay in your own place with your child. Find yourself a man who will love & respect you. You aren't going to find him hanging around waiting for sloppy seconds from this man who claims he loves you. If he did you & your child would be the most precious things in his world. He wouldn't even dream of stepping out with someone else.
He needs to grow up & be a responsible human being. His days of playing around should be over. If he wants to continue then you need to move on.
I know none of this is what you want to hear, but I won't sugar coat it. You deserve so much better.
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