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Rude or not rude
So is it just me or am I just me but my question is.. Is it disrespectful for your girlfriend to text and call other guys in front you an talk about your relationship problems with other people than to just talk to the other half?
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Sorry, you need to give some more context here before it's fair to label her behavoir as rude.
Everyone is entitled to have friends outside of their relationship - even friends of the opposite sex.
Everyone is entitled to discuss their relationships, their joys, troubles or fears, with other people.
Those actions don't equal disrespect, not by themselves.
If she ignoring you and spending more time on her phone than with you, then yes, that is disrespectful no matter who she is talking to you. If she is flirting openly with other guys, than yes, that is disrespectful. If she is insulting you or constantly complaining about you to others, then yes, that is disrespectful. But simply having other friends, even male, ones, who she shares her problems with and speaks too, is not disrespect. It's just being human.
There is a line you need you need to walk here between respecting her freedom to have friends, and to speak to them about personal issues (including relationship issues) and asking her to treat you respectfully when she does so.
So take a deep breath and consider what behaviors you are actually finding offensive - constantly taking calls or texts while out with you, or flirting with others - and asking her to stop those very specific actions, because asking her to stop speaking to other guys in general, or to not discuss your relationships with anyone else, are not fair expectations or demands.
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I'm going to disagree with Braiden to a certain extent.
I contact other guys in front of my husband all the time. I have mostly male friends and classmates, and my best friend is a man. Now, none of this is romantic: if she's flirting with other guys in front of you, that's pretty disrespectful, but if it's just chit-chat there's no reason for you to get your hackles up.
As for talking about your relationship problems with other people, that isn't necessarily rude. When I'm particularly frustrated with my husband I'll talk to my best few friends to get their opinion on the situation. Sometimes they smack me upside the head and tell me not to be so dramatic about it, sometimes they back me up and tell me I'm right to be upset. It's good to get feedback from people who aren't directly involved, and sometimes it's good to just vent: just look at how many people ask their relationship questions on here every day! Heck, you're technically talking to others about your relationship problems right now. It's not necessarily a bad thing. That said, I wouldn't broadcast problems to acquaintances, co-workers, and the world at large. Airing your dirty laundry is rude.
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Yes, very rude and childish
If you let too many people in all too often you are making your relationship look rocky from an outsiders point of view. Also, You are opening yourself up to more drama and chais. If twi people cannot respect one another and act like grown adults then they shouldn't be in a relationship at all. Not you but this girlfriend of yours already sounds like she isn't very happy.
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