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why would my teacher betray me like this?
I have a huge crush on my math teacher, she is young and extremely hot and I like her personality. She is 28 and I am 17. Unlike other sissies, I went and told my teacher at the end last year my attraction to her and how she is the girl of my dreams. She said "Come back when you're 18 and graduated" that must mean she was willing to go out with me after I graduate! I was so excited, but now, just six months or so before I graduate, I find out she has a boyfriend! What? , I am so sad and angry and jealous now, I feel sick. She might as well have stabbed me, it would have hurt less. Why would she trick and betray me like this? I feel I need to retaliate or confront her in some way
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I'm with the other two adviser's on this. Your teacher did not betray you. I think what she did was try to fend off, what are and were inappropriate advances on you part, in the most gentle way.
All students even of your age get crushes on their teachers, it is normal. What is not normal is for a teacher to have a crush on a student or to accept or perpetuate a students crush into an illicit relationship.
When I was in High School we had a Teacher who was a senior when I was in middle school. She returned to our school as a Freshman English Teacher when I was a Senior. Every guy in High School had a crush on her. Even worse was the fact she lived in the same town as most of us and we would see her each summer at the town pool.
She cooled each and everyone of down by having her boyfriend come to school one day and parading him in front of us during lunch. Her boyfriend was a Marine dressed in his dress uniform of a Marine Officer. Seeing him and her hanging on his arm quickly cooled all of us down.
Maybe your teacher should have said something differently to you. What she said to you meant that she had no interest in you and that you should go on about you business as she would with hers. There is no reason for retaliation on your part it will only cause you trouble.
The reality is that chronologically speaking. There is way to much of an age gap between you two . She is way to mature for you at this time for there ever to have been a chance for you two to have gotten together.
I'm sorry she has hurt you but given her age and possible teaching experience I feel she was trying to be kind and let you down gently.
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I'm with Razhie.
Student/Teacher relationships that go beyond the classroom are inappropriate, hands down. There was no betrayal that happened here. She wasn't clear maybe, that she was being sarcastic. Really, she shouldn't have been sarcastic, and should have just said "I'm sorry, but that would be inappropriate." But she didn't. However, that doesn't mean that she lied to or tricked you.
Do not retaliate against her or confront her; you would only get in trouble.
Write her a letter, tell her everything you're feeling and thinking and how much she hurt you. Swear at her, call her every name you can think of, and don't apologize. Once that letter is written, burn it. Rip it to shreds, bury it in your backyard. Do whatever you want with it, but DO NOT send her the letter. Just work on sorting your feelings out in the meantime.
Siren
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She didn't betray you, and she didn't trick you.
Even if she had intended to date you (and she never did, she was simply making a joke, and trying not to hurt your feelings too much) she was never required to wait for you to turn eighteen. She is a free person. She owed you nothing. She was completely within her right to date whoever she chooses.
You should not confront her. That would be inappropriate, controlling and creepy. She didn't wrong you. She doesn't owe you an explanation or an apology.
Cry it out. She was never interested in you to begin with. Sometimes someone we like, doesn't feel the same way about us. That's just life. That's something that healthy people need to learn to handle.
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