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Says he is 'falling for me' but yet has ignored me since saturday night?
Ok, 20/f and he is 22/m (lets call him, cutie)
I met this guy through a very close friend of mine. We agreed to take things slow and start out as friends.
Well, honestly, when we are around each other, we cuddle, peck kiss, hold hands, ect. We haven't done anything more than peck kiss though. We have known each other for about a month (which is why we are taking things slow). Well, the first couple of weeks, he would ignore me completely one day a week. He told me straight up that he is a busy person and that he works 7 days a week.
But when Im around him, his phone is ALWAYS in his hand? He told me that when I tell him or act like I'm getting attached to him, it pushes him away; so I stopped and he starting coming on to me a lot more stronger.
Well, Saturday night, I was hanging with him and our mutual friend and he admitted to me that he was falling for me, and if he was ever ready for a girlfriend, I'd be the first girl he'd get with. I was shocked.
Well, around midnight, he recieved a phone call from our mutual friend and told me and my cousin to leave because the police were about to be there. So we left. I was concerned and worried, and he finally called me at 1240 and told me that the police searched his apartment for weed or whatever. Something didn't feel right, I did't believe it. I called our mutual friend and he told me he didnt want to be the one to tell me becaus ehe felt like it was cutie's job to inform me. After a few minutes, the mutual friend told me. His ex girlfriend was about to come over, and told him that if I was there, she was going to whoop my 'ass'. Please note, that I'm not with drama. I'm 20 and this girl is 17! (that is why she is his ex; she lied about her age, and when he found out, he left her)
Well, cutie has NO idea that I know. I'm not mad, it's not really his fault, ya know? But since that phone call at 1240, I have NOT heard from him. It's not like him. HOw can he tell me he's falling for me, and than ignore me like that for 3 days? I tried texting him and calling him, and when I called- he picked up and said nothing. So i hung up an called him back and no answer.
I'm just confused? The mutual friend hasn't heard from him either? Any tips on what I can do?
Btw. Cutie left his hat in my car; and idk what I should do with it? He lives exactly 1 minute away from me. He told me a few days back that he was going to start leaving his hat in my car, so I have to come see him? hah.
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He may be cheating on you with his ex, or he's really busy. I suggest you go to his house to return the hat, but do not knock, sneak in to see if he is cheating. Or maybe to get more of his attention when you go to his house, kiss him with the tougue.
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Try to call/text him a few more times and in a day or two if he is still ignoring you go round his house and talk to him or leave it a little bit and text him asking him to meet you somewhere and see if he turns up it may be something to do with his ex girlfriend you don't know but maybe you should see him and find out
good luck :)
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He's just messed up.
And you should be at least a bit mad. He lied to you about being searched by police! That's not a small white lie. That actually kind of a big deal lie. Then he ignored you for days. That sucks. That's doesn't show regret or respect. What does he want you to think? That maybe the police came back and arrested him? Imagine how worried you might be if his friend hadn't spilled the beans about his crazy ex.
Here's what it boils down too:
Is it a good enough deal for you that, if he was ready for a girlfriend, you'd be the first one he called?
And in the meantime he's gonna run hot and cold on you, sometimes ignore, sometimes complain you are coming on to strong, and sometimes lie to you because he dated a crazy teenager who he still has contact with.
Is that a good enough offer?
Cause I have to tell you, that doesn't sound like 'taking it slow'. That sounds like being taken advantage of because you don't know him well enough to not give him the benefit of the doubt when he acts like an inconsiderate, deceitful dick.
This doesn't need to be confusing if you recognize that he just really messed up right now, and that what he has on offer probably isn't good enough reason to stick around for.
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