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I forgave him,but I can't forget.....
I have a bf who I have been with for two weeks and three days.He hurt me before we started dating.He had started dating his bff,then didn't tell me,and wouldn't talk to me at all.Then when they broke up,he asked me out,and I said yes.But he recently almost kissed another one of his bff's,because he told my friend he thought she was me.But he told me he almost kissed her because he was thinking of me.I told him I forgive him.But i can't seem to get it out of my mind.I'm scared that he'll actually kiss her next time.I really want to break up with him,but he recently told me he loves me,and that i'm the only one for him.I can tell he's telling the truth,because of the way he looks at me.He also bought me a christmas present.My bff's say I should break up with him,but if I do,I will feel really bad.
Should I break up with him?And if so,how should I do it?
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Sabrina is very right! But, I actually had the almost exact same thing happen to me! So my bff (or only school bff since she was just really a friend at school.) knew this guy (herbf obvs) and were dating for 4 monthes. Supposably the week whe school started he broke up with her the third day of school and asked me out the next day. I actually saw hm that day right after he broke up with her and we talked but thta was really it. He than asked me the next day and I said yes. He was so hot and was really popualr.
He would sit right across from me in english. My bff was so mad at me and never talked to me, although we sat next to each other she moved. The guy said he loved me and the next day I broke up with him. He kept saying after he really didn't care and saying he was just dating me to make his ex mad. he wrote me a note the day before (note I did not write any note to him whatsoever before) and said I love you and all this crap about how he thinks we'll be together for a long time. I was just like whatever. So I was totally fine after. He started kissing my bff again and dated another one of my bff's but I was ok. We're like best friends now though. He's actually like an annoying brother.
I say it's up to you, but no one accidently kisses (conveniently) you bff. Who happened to date him before. And lyng is easy to pull off. Just stay calm and make this look in your eyes. If actors can do it than we can too. After practice you get good at it. And I can tell you fall for guys easily. Don't sweat over boys! You have all the time after collage to pursure wild boys. Right now us girls need to focus to get good grades.
Good luck and rememeber, Boys will always be there, your knowledge and the key to success in highschool (or middle school) won't.
(I don't know what your grade is.)
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From what i've read, the answer depends on you. I admit that i don't know 100% on what's really going on over there, but if you really, really believe that the only person for him is you and breaking up is the last thing on your mind, then give the relationship time. Observe his deeds, the way he expresses his feelings to you and the way he treats you. However, i suggest you to not trust him with all your heart yet because things can sometimes change from good to bad, and bad to worse and the one who's going to bear the burden of tears and bitterness is you and you'll have a long time dealing with these feelings. Like i said earlier, observe him. Remember, you are his girlfriend and you deserve loyalty too from him. It's very strong of you to forgive him eventhough he has hurt you for more than one time but still, don't put your key to happiness in his pocket. Also, life sometimes is about you. Think about it for a moment and ask yourself, can he be trusted ? Is it true that he loves you ? If so, let his actions define his feelings. On the other hand, if you choose to break up with him, you'll lose nothing to be honest. Yes, you might feel really bad afterwards, but if it's worth it, you'll be fine. Think of the best for you and him but prioritise yourself first. See what'll happen if you break up. Don't worry, if he truly loves you, he'll do anything. Remember, if a guy loves you, nothing can make him leave but if he does not, nothing can make him stay. Break up by telling him the truth so that he'll know then, move on. Being with no one is better than being with the wrong one. The choice is yours. Choose the best. Learn from what has happened in the past and don't let the hurtful history haunt you. It's never easy to forget certain things but you need to deal with them and keep in mind that if he violates your trust AGAIN after this, you need to find another guy and let your bf go. Don't worry too much okay ? Be brave. Be independent. Time will heal. Trust your heart and don't fall too easily for him. Don't be scared of what's not happening yet as it will lead to terrible anxiety sometimes. Be scared if you're on the wrong side of the road and fail to see obvious evidences that the relationship is going in a downward spiral then, take actions. All the best :)
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