|
Was it a spur of the moment?
Hi,I'm Jazz 14/f.I'm very confused as of right now.
There's this guy named Andrew.He's two years older than me,and also my brother's best friend's.Every since I first met him last year,I've had a crush on him.I would try to go where I knew he would be.
But now,it's different since we all go to the same school.
But my two bestfriend's know I had a crush on him.
But I noticed that he was always finding reasons to talk to me,or help me.But i didn't think anythimng of it,I just thought he was being nice since I was his bestfriend's little sister.
So two months ago,the crush I had on him went away.I just viewed him as a friend.
But this month,he told my bestfriend's he likes me,so they told me.
He writes me letters every other day now,telling me how beautiful and sweet i am.
He even told me he was always trying to talk to me or help me because he liked me since we first met.
He gets nervous when he's around me,and when I hug him,he get's red and blushes.
He says he gets butterflies when I'm around,and my friends keep telling me to go out with him.
But I feel bad,because he's writing me these nice letters telling me how beautiful and perfect I am,but when I write back all I can he=onestly say is he's sweet and nice,because I don't have a crush on him.
I sort of feel like I'm leading him on,which is exactly what I don't want to do.
I want to tell him that he should forget about me,and move on,and he should stop writing me,but I don't know if i should.
Should I?
How do I explain to him that I got over that crush on him earlier this year?
Any help right about now would do me good.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
just say "Andrew i know you like me but i got over you..i don't want to hurt your feelings trust me .. maby if you had told me earlier i would have said yes but,you were just too late... but there are other girls you will fall in love with so dont be upset,i still have felligs for you but not the ones i used to .."
]
Hi there. There's absolutely NO good way to tell a guy who is crazy about you that it's not there for you. However you word it, he'll feel awful. Roles reversed...wouldn't you? But of course, you can't say you're his girlfriend, with all that this does and will entail merely because you don't want to hurt his feelings. And letting him go on believing that you do love him, and you're simply playing a bit 'hard to get' is not sporting at all. You've just got to do the right thing Jazz and tell him, calmly but firmly that the relatioonship he wasn't just isn't going to happen. No hysterics if you can help it. He WILL get over you (no disrespect, it might take him a while, heartbreaker!!). And don't feel guilty. It has to be done.
]
More Questions: |