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What does this guy want out of me or this relationship?
15/f hes 15/m im a capricorn and hes a taurus if that means anything but it helps me. im going to try to make this as short as possible. anyway this guy i've been talking to for about a month we have a lot of classes together and we talk and text alot i feel like i've been best friends with him my whole life. we started talking and we found out that we are physically each others types and we wouldnt mind hooking up and being friends, since we already are, kinda like a friends with benefits thing. but then when we were gonna hang out and hook up, he suddenly couldnt so we were gonna hang out that week, so i was like ok (this was about a month ago) but i never got his text to hangout so then that day he told me over text that he likes me and kinda has feelings for me and i didnt tell him i liked him until two days later and but then he started getting kidna shady and it felt weird becasue he didnt ask me out or anything and still flirty with other girls, becasue thats how he is and he said he wasnt intrested in any of them. so i just told him flat out that i dont want this to be weird so lets go back to being friends and if we hook up then i guess it happens. then like two days ago i guess our feeling for each other never diminshed because he wouldnt tell me who he liked and said he would only tell me if i told him, becasue this time i think he was scared i would reject him becasue i told him i would probablly never want to be serious with him. and so the next day he finally told me how he felt that he still kinda has feelings for me and likes me. when he told me over text that he liked me it was bittersweet i guess you could say because i like him, we would hookup, i like him as a person/friend but then he just made things so complicated again! this is the whole reason i wanted to back to being friends again. so far i havent told him how i felt but the thing is what am i supposed to do? i dont think he's gonna ask me out, not that i want that, becasue im not sure if i want a relalitonship. but its like i dont get it like he likes me, he wants to hook up, were still frineds but no relationship, and i think i want the same..is that bad? BUT i havent seen him two days which is when he told me he like med, and he hasnt texted me in a day which is weird for him, and now i think he feels awkward because he said he liked me but i never told him that i liked him and now i dont know what to do before this get awkward and lose my friendship with him or something bad happens i dont know what to say to him? thanksss also i feel like im going crazy because i like him but he flirts with girls in front of me and then we get into fights and i just dont know what to do
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Girl, this is too much complication. If you two were REALLY meant for eachother, it wouldn't be so much confusion. It should be so simple. The points been miscommunicated between you two, and he needs to be straight forward about his feelings for you, and you too. You both should come out and say what you really want out of this. Also friends with benefits situation never really works out. Regardless someone ALWAYS gets feelings for the other person down the line. It's just human nature. So both of you make up your minds, and deal with it!!! Just be together if that's what your hearts really want. If not, then don't. Time's being wasted here!
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This is a complicated situation indeed. I think you need to decide what you want because it seems like he wants a relationship and you're not sure. Because he told you he liked you, I don't think you guys can just be friends anymore, especially since you've admitted you have feelings for him.You should tell him everything, how you feel. Tell him you like him too, but you're not sure you want a relationship. Maybe he can convince you it's all worth it, being with him. I think you hurt him when you didnt tell him you liked him back and he's turning to other girls to help him feel better, or that he's trying to make you jealous so that you could step up to the role. I would talk to him and be honest with everything because then you wouldn't need to question everything when he's the source of your questions AND answers. Good luck.
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Have you ever maybe thought that he flirts with girls in front of you, because he wants to see your reaction? He sounds like he does like you, but before you do the friends with bens thing, make sure that your both honest with your feelings. Are you really okay with not committing? Can you imagine him hooking up with you, and then him hooking up with another girl in front of you, or visa versa? You may want ask him seriously if he's willing to start a real relationship with you. In the end your feelings will aways be your feelings, and the decisions you make won't change them, but may help. So if you decide to remain friends make sure it's what you really want. If you want to take a chance, remember that in any relationship it's a risk of fighting, and getting hurt. You have to accept that, and way the pro's and con's. So speak to him about it, after you decide what you really want. Remember that in any situation feelings will develop, and expressing those feelings in a healthy way is what will make your friendship and relationship stronger, and remember don't be afraid to get your feelings hurt, or something bad happening. I've read that feelings getting hurt is a good thing believe it or not, it means we've tried for something wonderful.
Good Luck & Best Wishes!!!
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