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If my boyfriend's father continues to live with us, I am packing and leaving with the baby. What do I do?
My boyfriends father just got out of jail 5 months ago he had been in there for 4 years and this was my first time meeting him. He seemed generaly nice and when he asked if he could stay with us I told him I had to think about it. A day later he said he would pay rent and help with food if he could stay because he got Assistance. Having a new born I decided we needed all the help we could get. Well he didn't help with rent or food at first but he did a car payment for us so I let him stay. Every month he said he did a payment but still didn't help with rent. I got real frustrated when our lease was up and we had to move and he said he would pay half and turned up not paying a dime. I eneded up getting money off my parents to pay for a new place. Then a repo man came for our car. Apperently he had not been paying anything twards the car. Lately he has been staying with his mother and staying here once a week. One morning after staying here my parents picked me up to get the car back as a early christmas day present and he stayed behind. When we get home my boyfriends guns and amo was taken. (They were given to him by his dads dad so they are in his name) and his dad said it was because my boyfriend was going on the road for truck driving and we be gone days on end. Now his dad is saying we owe him 200$ for spending his money on our gas bill. We have already faught so bad I kicked him out once and he made my boyfriend pick me or him. (The fight was soon over when he realized I had been right and that I had nothing to be sorry about)after all this I don't want his dad living with me while my boyfriend is away and I don't like that he went in our room to get the amo. I don't know how to say this without upsetting everyone but I know if he stays ill pack my stuff and take off with my son(ill let my boyfriend know where I am and such). Advice?
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I think you need to do what's best for your son and you. First of all, your boyfriend needs to tell him that he needs to find a job or something because he's literally wasting space just being there. He hasn't paid for anything, hasn't done anything, and does not help. You have a child you need to worry about. The only problem is, I don't think you should leave your boyfriend. After all, it's the baby's father and the separation between you two might take a toll on the relationship. Where will you go with your son if you do leave? Are you stable enough to live without your boyfriend's help? In all honestly, I think the dad needs to go, not you. It's your place, his son's place, his son's life, not his. He had his chance to live and he shouldn't infringe any of that on his child and his child's family.
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First: A convicted felon, which your boyfriends father is. Whether on parole or not is not allowed to own or possess a gun. If he is on parole and in possession of any gun he is in violation of his parole and will be returned to prison to serve the remainder of his sentence.
All you need to do is inform his parole officer or call the police or sheriff. If he is not on parole and has served his sentence then being in possession of a gun is a new charge. Simply call the police or sheriff and report him. This is the quickest way to resolve this problem.
From what you have written your boyfriends father has proven himself untrustworthy in his promise to you and your boyfriend. Now by taking your gun and the ammo he is breaking his agreement with the parole board if he is on parole and should return to prison.
You have not said what sent your boyfriends father to prison in the first place. If he commits another crime? Do you want a gun registered to you used in the commission of a felony. By knowingly allowing him to keep the gun you could be charged with aiding and abetting in any crime(s) he commits with the gun as well as harboring if he remains in your home.
You don't say what the relationship is between your boyfriend and his father. Whatever it may be it is not reason enough to endanger either of yours freedoms by allowing this man to have that gun in his possession. Call the police or his parole office and report him. This protects you, your boyfriend and your child.
Just to endure your safety ask the landlord to change the locks on your place when your boyfriends father is not there. To give only you and your boyfriend a key and not anyone else including your boyfriends father. Then pack his things and set them outside. This protects you and the baby while you await the justice system to do their thing.
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