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Masturbation vs. SEX
I'm 19, female, and a virgin.
I'm a bit worried... I plan on losing my virginity to my long time boyfriend soon. I can tell it's headed there and I'm starting to feel more and more ready. HOWEVER, I have some fears...
I masturbate occasionally... but not much... it just doesn't do much for me. I can't really get myself wet and me touching ME doesn't really turn me on. I often just can't get off to fantasy land because I'm just too preoccupation with how frustrated I am and how sub-par it feels...
But... I feel like sex will be much better?
It it common for a girl not to be able to get too turned on when she's on her own but still have amazing sex with a partner because there's an actual person touching you opposed to touching yourself?
I'm worried I won't be able to get wet enough during sex. My boyfriend has been very respectful and we haven't really done anything besides kissing so I just don't know. Also, he took a semester off from school to be with family so we're separated for now. But just a text from him can turn me on more than trying to imagine sex I've NEVER had during masturbation...
Also, I tried using a small dildo and it just feels like a cold, uncomfortable object inside me... even if I move it in and out.
***Is sex better than masturbating once you get comfortable with it?
I guess in my mind I'm kind of comparing it to being tickled. I cannot tickle myself because it feels like nothing... but when someone else tickles me I'm a mess of laughter...
Is it kind of the same thing?
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Most women find masturbation to be more stimulating and are able to cum more easily with masturbation. Usually, masturbation is how you learn what you like and what it feels like to get aroused and cum.
It is important to masturbate because it teaches you what brings you pleasure and what it feels like to get aroused and have an orgasm. When you eventually start having sexual intercourse, that knowledge will help you have a more satisfying experience.
The most popular ways are fingers, vibrator, dildo, Shower Massage, bathtub faucet, and humping a pillow. Most people start in their teen years, but a lucky few get started as early as 5 or 6 when they discover it by accident.
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Hello!!!
Okay so... masturbation and sex are two different things from the same family tree.
I have heard mixed reviews, some people believe that masturbation is better, because you know what you like, and how to do it. Some people says that sex is 10x better because you are with someone you care about. Some people say either way is good for them. May I suggest a vibrator and K.Y. Jelly if you want to try masturbating before you have sex. Some vribrators are expensive, but I know, and this may sound weird, but a lot of girls use vibrating toothbrushes that you can get for cheap at any drugstore. No one will think twice about you buying one lol!! Because you haven't had actual physical sex with your boyfriend, you don't know how it's going to be exactly, you can only imagine. The first time for every girl, is a little uncomfortable, and it may be hard to orgasm, so I would suggest if he's better option for getting you off, then you should probably let him do it, right before you make physical contact with him.
Masturbation tip: Make sure you're stimulating your clitorus, which makes a world of a difference on allowing yourself to get turned on and having a good experience. Women rarely orgasm from just vaginal contact, so focus on your cltiorus when your boyfriend says something that turns you on try it then. If not then it's totally fine! Different strokes for different folks. It's okay to have amazing sex with your partner, and not like masturbation as much. Eventually you'll begin to understand and know your own body, so just enjoy what you have with your boyfriend. hope this helped!
Best Wishes!!
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