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im unsure what to do: i want to get drunk, hook up and have sex with a guy, but i am not shaved down there
I'm not if my question has to do with virginity that much.
But any way... so I am turning 18 in a month and female... I'd like advice bc I dnt know what to do
I like these kids I meet a a party (speaking in general) and I drink. Start getting drunk and I wanna hook up with that person but I can't cause I'm too nervous and I tell my friends and they say its okay Ull be show to do watever in the heat of the moment but I cant. I'm also nervous because no one told me that I had to shave down there and I have sensitive skin so when I try its just bad..but would a guy still like me if he found out?
Do guys like "old fashioned" girls anymore like the ones who just wanna kiss and take it slow ? And progress as the relationship goes on? But I'm self conscious about my self.
I know this may be a lot but I feel like a confused teen and I hate being single and not doin anything with people at parties and I hate when my friends talk about stuff that I dnt understand bc I've never done it or I'm not that intelligent
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I like the answer russianspy1234 gave you, it really hit the mark.
I like unshaven girls. To me a girl who shaves looks well; like a child. When I have sex I want to have sex with a women and that means having hair down there. I understand you will want to trim it during the summer to wear a sexy bathing suit but summer in most of the country is only 3 months long.
As to being scared. Your only just turning 18. Everyone is on their on pace as to what they do and when. If you have to get drunk to have your first sexual experience you are not ready. Being scared, so sacred that you need to get drunk, then this is a warning bell going off telling you not to do this. Sex or anything else you have to get drunk to do is what we older folk call getting "Dutch Courage, getting drunk."
Sex is to precious and pleasuring to be drunk when performing, especially the first time. You want to remember the first time and it should be special. While this is more so for the girl it is also for a guy. There is only one time you do anything for the first time and you don't want to be so drunk as not to remember it.
For a women, which you will be as soon as you turn 18, you will be of legal age and have every right to a sex life. You do not have to worry about what your parents think or may say if and when they find out.
There are guys out there that think as you do. That they are not out there to put another notch on their bedpost. That sex is special, something to be mutually enjoyed. When you find this guy he will be honored that you waited for him to give your virginity to.
This will be the guy who will see to it that when you two do have sex you will be comfortable both in having sex with him and in the place and surrounding where you have your first sexual experience. You will feel safe and secure that you will not be intruded upon. That the two of you can take your time and make it memorable for both of you. This is what sex is all about and more so for the first time for either person.
You have waited this long it is worth waiting to find this guy. I assure you he is out there. It will matter not to him if you are shaved or not. For you see he will be making love, making love to you not just having sex with someones body. There is a difference. Wait for the guy that will make love to you it will be worth the wait of this I can assure you and you won't need any "Dutch Courage" to go to bed with him.
What you can do for now in preparation for meeting this guy; is see your GYN and get a prescription for birth control that is proper for you. That way when the time comes you won't have that to worry about.
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Ok first off, once a guy is in the general area of your vagina, unless it has like razor sharp teeth or something, he isn't gonna care. Yes some guys might have a preference one way or the other (there are those that prefer unshaved to shaved) but even those will give it less than a second of thought upon seeing that yours isn't their preference and then continue what they were doing with you.
Second off, yes there are still plenty of guys that like old fashioned girls who just want to kiss and take it slow, and form a relationship out of that. Thing is, you probably won't meet many of those guys getting drunk and hooking up at parties. It's possible, but it's just not the best way to go about it, so don't be disappointed if it doesn't go that way. You could try taking it slow with yourself, and make your first (or first few, w/e) "hookup" at a party just be making out, to work up your confidence. Plus, if the guy sticks around after you make it clear it's not going further than that, it's more likely you've found one of the nicer guys.
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