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I'm so shy, how can I get him to make the first move?
Hello, 18, female, freshman in college. There is this boy in the dorm next to mine that I find attractive. We start class and end class at the same time but are in different lectures so usually I see him walking to or walking back from class. Well, before Hurricane Sandy struck and we were off school for three days, I saw him leaving his lecture and walking back to his dorm. So, I picked up my pace a little so that he'd at least notice me. When I was right behind him, a girl obnoxiously screamed so he turned around to look at her and dispose of his cigarette. Well, he looked at her and while turning his head to look forward again, he caught sight of me and he did a double take. I hope in a good way, at least. Then today, I saw him again. He's usually late leaving class, I don't know why he's been so early lately but anyway, I picked up my pace again and this time, I was next to him. I saw him look at me a few times out of the corner of my eye so I walked a little in front of him to see if he'd do anything but he didn't. It makes me think that's he's shy, too because he's usually alone and when he isn't, he's with the same four friends. I don't mind that he isn't some popular dude with 39526 friends because, like I said, I'm shy, too. But, how is anything supposed to happen if neither of us will do anything? I'm not the type of person to just go up to him and start talking about random nonsense and he doesn't strike me as that type either so I don't know what to do or even if he is interested because all I can go off of is how many times he looks at me.. I need help trying to deal with all of this. I want to, at least, be his friend but believe me when I say that I am shy so please don't message me saying "just talk to him, it's so easy!"
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i know you said not to message saying "just talk to him, its so easy". I know its not easy.
But try next time give him a half grin or a smile.
It's hard to talk to a guy that you find attractive but if you don't try you'll always thing "what if"
This may not be any help but you're going to have to talk to him someway or another.
-imalwayshere xo.
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Just talk to him!
It's not easy, I get that, but it is what you need to do.
You don't even know this guy. You know almost nothing about him at all. You aren't even at the 'make the first move' stage yet, you are at the 'akwnowledge he exists' stage.
Say good morning. Say hi. Or, just fricking smile at him.
Once you do that, we might be able to give you a bit of advice, but right now we have nothing to go on, and neither do you.
So don't stress yourself out. Just say hi. Just smile. He's seen you around. The first step is just acknowledging each other exists. If you can manage that, you'll actually be on to something.
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