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Random moments of sadness where all I want to do is lay in the dark and cry. What is wrong with me?
I get these really bad headaches on the back right of my head and i always feel like shit, like nothing i do is ever good enough like a pressure to be perfect. And Ill get these random moments of sadness where all I want to do is lay in the dark and cry. Please help me, please.
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i get theese too......but heres not what to do.dont cut bruise or burn yourself take pills blah blah blah. they go away, twell a doctor or adult, i get thesse and i didnt tell anyone for years and cut my wrists and really hurt myself dont be like me......try journaling??it helps i swear mine turned into depression and anxiety and an attempt at suicide fix it before it gets worse
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we r the same but wat u hav is stress
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This is the time for you to cry everything out now but stand up after that immediately . Don't tell yourself "I'm never gonna be good at anything." or "I can't do this ! i've had enough." , no no don't tell yourself such things which can ruin your love towards your ownself . Remember , life is not about pleasing others to the best , but to live life to the fullest . Life itself can't be perfect and there's a reason why all of us are imperfect , to show that we need to complete each other's life . You need to be strong and i am so sorry for saying this but i can tell that you're now in a weak and a very vulnerable state and if you can't control your sadness , you might do just anything to relieve the pain . Maybe before this you were once a strong , confident person but somehow something or someone in your life took that joy from you . So , this is the time for you to think of solutions and keep on praying to God . I know that you're trying to live every day happily , but somehow you just can't . Maybe your past has something to do with this but you know what ? It's never too late to change , stand up on yourself ! This is when the hard part comes . It's like someone who has been writing with his right hand tries to change to being a left-handed person , that's how hard it is and it takes courage , sacrifice , tears and pain , and immense strength . The best thing about this is that everyone has the ability to do it ! You have a choice to change your life , so use that choice . Don't be afraid to take risks , you might lose the pearl of your life believe me . Everyday , try to develop self-help and make sure there is a progress . Also , don't , never let people affect your life . It's your life , your heart , your mind , your hair , your arms and everything and they can't be in your body , only you can . Make your heart stronger . Get inspirational stories ! Don't be a perfectionist too sometimes for it might be a burden which brings pressure instead of beauty . If people don't like you , let them be . Be kind to everyone no matter how old they are , smile all the time . Move on from painful memories , be grateful that you're still alive . Be who you are . You are special in your own way and if you keep on trying to please others , then you need to change . Be kind to yourself okay ? That's really important . Be a positive thinker because someone who always thinks positively can get benefits from goodness and also extract benefits from calamities . Remember , you have the choice . Choose the best one for your life . Everyday brings us closer to death , so live it the best way you can and it doesn't need to be perfect . You'll get through this eventually but it only takes you as the key to unlock the freedom of your life , trust me . You can do it don't give up .
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I'm not a doctor, none of are so I cannot make any type of diagnoses.
To me the headaches and the random moments of sadness may or may not be related. The random moments of sadness and the desire to lay in the dark and cry are moments of depression. Depression, clinical depression, is generally brought on by stress. The pressure to be perfect is enough pressure to cause depression, especially in a teenager. In fact depression brought on by stress in a teenager is called teenage depression.
Headaches are also primarily caused by stress. So it is easy to say that if you are pushing yourself to be perfect then you are placing a lot of stress on yourself in just trying to be perfect. Then I'm sure there are other things in your life to place added stress on you. The result is the desire to curl up in a ball and go off someplace dark and cry.
You don't say how old you are if you are under 14, which I have a feeling you are not, you need to have mom or dad make a doctors appointment for you. If you are over 14 you have the choice of making your own doctors appointment or discussing with mom,dad or both how you are feeling and asking one of them to take you to your family doctor.
Being over 14 a federal law called HIPPA gives you this option as it gives you medical confidentiality for certain medical conditions. What you are feeling qualifies under the law for you to see any doctor without parental permission or knowledge of why you are seeing the doctor.
Everything about the visit and treatment is confidential and your parents can only learn of what you are being treated for, if you are treated for anything, with your written permission. Your mom by law can no longer be in an exam room with you unless you invite her to be with you. The reason for this law is to allow young people such as yourself to be totally open an honest with your doctors so they can properly treat you.
My advice is to see your doctor. Teenage depression, if that is what is troubling you is easily treated with or with out medication and some talk therapy. The headaches may or may not be related and that takes a doctors to diagnose.
One thing you may try is a motto I have used all my life. It is something I found to help me cope with trying to be perfect. The motto is: "The only person I have to be better than tomorrow is the person I am today."
What this means is that I realized that I can't always be perfect. That I can't always be the best at everything I do although I will continue to try there is always going to be someone that can do something better than me. I don't have to compete with everyone just myself. If I can do better tomorrow then I am today, I am better for it.
This took a lot of pressure off me and I still excelled in those areas that were important to me. I was in sales and since this is how I supported my family this is the area I mainly wanted to excel in. So this is the area I had to be better in everyday. It works, I lead my company in sales almost every year.
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Hey it seems like times are rough right now . I promise what ever is going on right now will pass . Remember I'm here if you need to talk . I know what your going thro! Society is the reason you feel pressured to be perfect . The way you feel .... We all kinda feel that way some times . Crying is good . It's a human emotion that is used to express your feelings
It feels like I took a shower on the inside when I cry . It helps me . Im sorry you feel like that ... I hope things get better and always remember I'm here for you! Wish you the best of luck!
-Melissa
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