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Is this an abnormal way of responding?
Okay, I have a pretty messed up life and I've been abused mentally and physically by my parents and other kids, in that order. I'm 12 years old and have depression and PTSD. I am required to see a councilor by my school. Take into consideration that these are very little details of what actually goes in my life. Whenever I get sad, I cut, write in my diary, and then I listen to really sad music and write poems for hours. Is this an abnormal way of responding?
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I have been both physically and mentally abused too.. What you have got to realise is you are not the only person in the world that feels like this. People understand kid.. and poetry.. I love poetry.. infact i write poems all the time and when i am sad i listen to sad music aswell.. that is normal but kid, don't cut... you're not a piece of meat, you are so much more than that. Your so young to have all of this on your shoulders, get a councillor - take the chance to live a different life.. someone you can tell everything to and they don't judge you. I promise. A diary as well BRILLIANT.. i have never been able to keep a diary - express yourself in art, poetry, writing and sport... Sport is the best way to release stress and shit like that
Don't cut. express yourself in different ways
Good luck sweets, chin up <3
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Baring in mind i am like 14 <3
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There is a fine line between normal and abnormal. What is normal for one person may not be normal for another. At times circumstances dictate normal.
What is never normal is cutting, it is dangerous and life threatening as you can easily cut to deep or in the wrong place. Does your therapist know you cut?
I realize you are giving us a snapshot of what your life is about. Being just the words "ohysically abused by parents," leaves open a host of what type of abuse you have suffered. Most if not all are grounds for criminal charges.
The fact that the school is requiring you to see a therapist and may be supplying this service tells me that some adult or state agency is aware of your circumstances.
What concerns me is the cutting and the fact that there may be a lack of follow through on the part of the school or agency that has referred you for therapy. I am also concerned that your therapist is not aware of your cutting. If your therapist is not aware of your cutting you must tell the therapist about your cutting immediately so that the proper help can be given you.
PTSD and depression go hand in hand. Depression hurts, I know as I have suffered from it. As much as I would like to give you more advice I cannot do so without more information on the type of abuse you have suffered from you parents and any physical abuse at school.
On thing I will advice you of is this; If you have suffered any type of sexual abuse from your parents and have not made this clear to your therapist you must do so. If you are still suffering this type of abuse you must tell the police as this is criminal child abuse.
Most schools have a police resource officers. Speak with this officer or dial 911. If you cannot do so safely then either go to the police station or any fire station for help. These places are safe havens for children.
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It isn't abnormal, rather usual actually but it is damaging to a degree; I'm studying to be a therapist so I'll do my best to help here though I have just begun my course:
I'm going to assume your poems and music don't cheer you up, if they do then by all means continue and have no need to read on, if they don't then feel free to do so lol:)[I'd like to add here that everyone has a hobby so even if they don't cheer you up, but you enjoy them, carry on doing them as much as you wish, don't let anyone tell you your 'strange' or whatever because you have something you enjoy]
I suppose one word is it is maladaptive behaviour; behaviour you have learnt which isn't helping your situation and puts you in a negative spiral if you understand that? basically, let's say someone pushed you which upset you, you then dwell on that thought with your behaviours and slowly remember other similar occurrences which builds up to a very demanding emotion. Some people would then turn to self harm as a form of shifting the emotional pain we are not good at dealing with to a physical one which we are.
If we look at Freud, he would claim that this is your defence mechanism to the world, so your "id" and "ego" are struggling to contain themselves and the pressure is forming itself in a maladadaptive behaviour.
That's just a very brief idea of what certain psychologists have said, obviously you feel you have a tough life and all the events have clearly played their part in it but the trick is to now gain control of your life, I realise that is difficult for a young person as yourself but it is do-able with small changes to your behaviour people will perceive you differently. Talk to your counsellor and get things off your chest, don't be afraid to cry and be totally honest, as that's really the only way they can help you and trust me, nobody takes these jobs if they don't have a genuine desire to help.
Also, as far as your parents abuse, talk to your counsellor about this as well, don't be afraid as all adults who work with children are trained to handle these situations and your safety is everyones top concern. Best of luck and don't be so hard on yourself! You'll always have a friend somewhere :)
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