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Almost 3 weeks ago I decided to take a breakfrom talking to my best friend because things werent going very good between us. He has a girl friend so he only talks to me when it's convenient for him, like I'm a last resort. He went like 3 days without any simple hello text or anything just because he was so busy with her, it just bothered me and he doesn't seem to realize that our friendships Falling apart. Fast forwarding to the point, after about 4-5 days of us not talking he texts me sayIng "You still alive out there?" (which is usually the first thing he says when we haven't talked in awhile) the next day "so I'm assuming you're dead" the next day "okay this is the last time I'm gonna try talking :/" then about a week passes and day before yesterday I get another text "can you atleast tell me why you arent talking to me anymore" and then last night a message on Facebook saying "so uhm...why exactly are you ignoring me?"
I just want to know what all this means, I thought maybe he'd think about things over this time period and realize something, or maybe fight for our friendship. I don't know if these messages mean he cares or what..3 weeks is up in 3 days and I'm going to text him and I'm going to have to come up with some sort of explanation for why I haven't talked to him..which idk what I'm gonna say or if I should apologize or what. But my main reason for this question was to ask what his texts and messages mean, he's thinking about me and obviously he does care?
Anything helps, please and thank you.
Thank you for your time.
-18/f
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Yes he does care, but you need to understand that he has a girlfriend. I think you should talk to him, because it sounds to me like he misses you.
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I don't know what you're confused about. It is apparent to me that he wants to talk to you, he misses you, etc..
If I were you, I'd stop ignoring him. At least tell him why you aren't talking to him. But just dropping off the face of the earth will have him thinking the worst; that you ran away, you're dead, etc.. And that's just not what friends do.
You need to realize that yes, he's your friend, but his girlfriend is important, too. You're not a last resort. You're a friend. He wants to spend time with a girl that he really likes, and who likes him. Shouldn't you be happy for him, instead of ignoring and worrying him?
Not trying to be rude, but you're being ridiculous in my opinion. He cares about your friendship. But you're not his only priority. That's selfish thinking. This is just what happens when friends get significant others; they talk to their friends less. It doesn't mean they don't care, it just means something else has their attention. But he could break it off with this girl in a matter of a few months, but you, (the friend) you'll always be a part of his life. If you had a boyfriend, you probably wouldn't be talking to him as much as you used to, would you?
Stop ignoring him. He obviously cares if he's texted you four days in a row asking where the hell you are.
I hope I helped, and once again, I apologize for any rudeness that may have occurred in this response. Take care.
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