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about getting out of my depression
have a great day to the one who reads this... am 20 years old(female)..i am from india.i fell in love with a boy..he also loves me truly...but all the people in our class making funny comments of both of us which hurts me a lot..on another side my boyfriend hurts me so much by making complains often that am not taking care of him...because of that am just getting irritated and feel like crying because i cant lead a happiest life in my college and also with him...my boyfriend is not at all understanding me and scolding me like a hell even i make silly mistakes... now am worrying that why i fell in love..what the hell made me do this.. i can't leave him now because he will suffer a lot thinking of me..and i should also not miss a guy like him because no one can care for me in this world like him...but i cant lead a happiest life..i hate all my college friends and also am not at all fine being with my boyfriend.. just hate everything....feel like dying..what to do at this situation please guide me..am so much depressed and suffering a lot...please i need advice..
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Dear "about getting out of my depression." Wow, where to begin..... First, Dump him. You are not responsible for his happiness. You ARE, however, responsible for your own happiness and well being. You seem like a very sweet lady but you let other people blame you for their bad mood. Your "boyfriend" has no right to ever scold you!! Even if you make a very bad mistake, he is not your father. And as for no one ever caring for you like he does.... you're fooling yourself honey. He doesn't care for you. He cares for himself. He is a self centered egotistical man who makes you think it's your sole responsiblity in life to make him happy and meet his every whim. Well, I'm sorry love but he needs to get in touch with reality. But since it's not him seeking help and no one can change him but himself.... it's you who is seeking help, the only thing you can do to improve your situation is to get as far away from this looser as possible. And you so-called friends too. If they were true friends, they'd accept you for who you are and be happy for you if you are happy. If however, they are seeing how he is treating you and trying to make you see that he's a jerk.... perhaps you should give them an ear and listen to them, they are saying it because they love you. You may not be able to see it right now because you are thinking with your emotions/ not your logic.
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First off, if he's mean to you, why do you care if he suffers? You need to leave him now. He's not worth it. As far as everyone else making comments or whatever, they shouldn't be any concern to you. They don't know you.
Staying in this relationship is making you sad, so why stay in it? All you guys do is fight and he's a dick to you, right? So just leave! Tell him to go fuck himself, and find someone else. Get involved in something else to occupy yourself; to keep you from thinking of him. Don't worry about him, he'll take care of himself. He's a big boy.
Your first priority should be YOUR happiness, not his. You may love him, and I know its going to hurt, but you just have to let go. That's all you can do to feel better right now. Once he's out of your life, you'll feel like you can breathe again. Do you have a job? Are you in school? If so, pick up some extra shifts, or get more involved with your studies. Stay preoccupied so you can't think about him. Hang out with your friends a lot, don't be by yourself. Alone time will make it easier to cry and stay depressed.
: We may not get to decide who we fall for, but we can definitely decide who we stay with. Once he's gone, the healing can begin. Right now, he's just pouring salt into your wounds and its killing you, can't you see?
Please, just leave him. It'll be the quickest and easiest method of getting over him, believe me.
Take care, and good luck.
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