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Alcoholic Mom is stressing me out
I am a 20 year old female who has a great day life. I go to school, I work part time, I have great friends and a good family. I live at home with my parents to save money while I attend nursing school.
One bump is my mother. My mother is a sometimes functioning alcoholic. She holds a day job but at night drinks to oblivion and is just disgusting. She can't handle her booze at all, she'll go to bars and call me for a ride because she is kicked out of the bar. My mom is in her 50's so it's not normal. Her newest weakness is not making it to the bathroom, she will pee on the FREAKING floor. It's DISGUSTING. She's a mean nasty drunk and I want nothing to do with her.
I love my younger sister and my dad but he works nights and just doesn't realize the extent to which she is sick. During the day, my loving amazing mother comes back (which makes it really hard for me to try talking to her about it) but sometimes I just can't be here and she's just really nasty.
P.S. I really don't want pity or anything and I know many people have things much harder with an alcoholic parent, and I just want to figure out how to go about helping my Mom.
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This type of help your mom needs cannot fully come from you. I believe your mom needs professional help so she can see for herself what the problem is. Please let your mother know how she makes you feel when she acts like that.
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Hey, Addiction is a serious thing, your mother seems alcohol dependant so for every negative emotion she encounters she probably runs to some alcohol to deal with it for her.
This stems from a lack of coping abilities and needs to be dealt with asap. It may be hard to talk to your mum at first so confront your dad and tell him what she's like when he's at work, and, if your younger sister is old enough to join in, have the whole family sit down and tell her you want her to get help with the problem.
Also, as for it "not being normal" at 50, there really isn't a "normal" age for alcoholism, binge drinking is often for teenagers and young adults, but actual alcoholism is often more common in adults (due to stresses/midlife crisis etc.). As the person above said, try and get professional help from a local AA or equivalent.
It will be very hard, especially for your mother, but if she wants to change she will manage with your support :)
Goodluck x
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